Would you spank your child?

[Grisu]

Wanted to vote for 'neither', but since timeout is closer to what I'd probably do, I chose that one. I won't spank my kid, period.

You know not of what you speak of.....

QFT! Diapers scare me more than failing as a parent ever could

I felt the same before I got a kid...then I realized that the disgustyness of changing diapers is vastly overhyped

 

[Leifmk]

Wanted to vote for 'neither', but since timeout is closer to what I'd probably do, I chose that one. I won't spank my kid, period.

Spanking is not a done thing around here. It was on its way out already when I was a kid, and I'm 36 -- I was only ever spanked once, and it didn't make much difference except piss me off. Society has not collapsed over the last thirty years.

Spanking is not and will not be part of our parenting toolkit. Timeouts will be.

I felt the same before I got a kid...then I realized that the disgustyness of changing diapers is vastly overhyped

Meh, I grew up on a farm. No matter how hard Young Mister Stinkybutt tries, there's just nothing a human infant can produce that can measure up to a barn full of cattle with diarrhoea.

 

[Camikaze]

Spoiling a kid by not spanking them would make you a worse parent.

Not hitting a kid is spoiling them?
I would've put it more in the 'treating them as human' basket, myself.

 

[warpus]

Not hitting a kid is spoiling them?
I would've put it more in the 'treating them as human' basket, myself.

Spanking, if done properly, is not meant to be a form of physical abuse.

You're not doing it to hurt them! I think many people really understand the philosophy behind spanking..

 

[thekaje]

I usually do it to hurt them, actually. Wait, why do you do it?

 

[Camikaze]

Spanking, if done properly, is not meant to be a form of physical abuse.

You're not doing it to hurt them! I think many people really understand the philosophy behind spanking..

That's kind of like saying that you don't bash someone to hurt them, but to take their wallet. Sure, that's the intent, but it's still involving a physical assault.

Same with spanking. The idea is not to hurt the kid, it's to teach them that whatever they did was wrong. But, it still is hurting the kid (if it is to have an effect). And this violence, like the person getting bashed, will be the more memorable part. Which is not a good message to be sending to kids. Basically, you shouldn't resort to discipline through fear.

 

[Ammar]

I voted for timeout just to express my dislike of spanking. However, timeout is still a very bad option. If you have to straighten them out, they are more effective but still non-violent options.

As for quoting proverbs, I've given my answer to that in another thread.

 

[Grisu]

Spanking is not a done thing around here. It was on its way out already when I was a kid, and I'm 36 -- I was only ever spanked once, and it didn't make much difference except piss me off. Society has not collapsed over the last thirty years.

Spanking is not and will not be part of our parenting toolkit. Timeouts will be.

not sure why you quoted me there but I pretty much agree with you (I wasn't spanked either)

Meh, I grew up on a farm. No matter how hard Young Mister Stinkybutt tries, there's just nothing a human infant can produce that can measure up to a barn full of cattle with diarrhoea.

What I meant was that even for people without your dung-experience it's not that bad. No idea why people constantly complain how horrible changing diapers is...

 

[musekick]

Well, I think we all know that you're no Napoleon.

I would think that having a Napolean complex would be the complete opposite of what you'd need to raise a child.

 

[El_Machinae]

I think that for deterring some behaviour, spanking is the less harsh route. Due to habituation, escalating punishments often result in much harsher punishments than using severe punishments in an early and predictable manner.

Though isn't taking parenting advice from Solomon a bit like taking dieting advise from Rosie?

 

[dido]

no, thats what women are for...both the giving and the receiving end




j/k

 

[Mise]

I'd do whatever Lipschitz says.

Btw time out is like the gayest thing I've ever heard. Do all your parenting techniques come from sporting analogies?

 

[Zelig]

Btw time out is like the gayest thing I've ever heard. Do all your parenting techniques come from sporting analogies?

Like penalty kicks to the face?

 

[thekaje]

I would think that having a Napolean complex would be the complete opposite of what you'd need to raise a child.

Do you think the man who tamed Europe could not tame an insolent toddler?!

 

[Akka]

Spanking is awful.

You people will make terrible parents.

Judging the quality of parents based on if they spank or not is pretty stupid.
I was spanked once or twice during my childhood, and I don't grudge my parents for doing it. I was plenty deserving at the time, and it made me aware I had crossed a line.
Perhaps I would also have understood if punished in other ways, but this one worked, and it wasn't really painful nor traumatic, so I fail to see the big deal.
I still see my parents as loving me, caring for me and being great in every way.
OH NAW OMG THEY SPANKED ME, MUST MEANS THEY ARE HORRIBLE IN FACT DESPITE ALL MY MEMORIES AND ALL I FEEL SAYING THE OPPOSITE !

Get a clue, seriously.

As for me, I plan to teach my yet-to-be children as well as I can, and if sometimes the best way to show them they have to stop and I'm not joking is a spank, I'll do it.
What's all this crap with spanking or slapping being considered awful and horrible and murder and the like ? It's not like we're talking about beating the child.


PS : before any idiot start to use it to "prove" I'm just a brute : my sig IS just for laughs, thanks.

 

[thekaje]

Okay, I have a question for all you stuck-up anti-spanking crusaders out there: Can you even name ONE thing that violence hasn't solved?

 

[Akka]

Wow, I found someone who could actually take my sig seriously 0_o

Spanking is useful because sometimes, children are not able to fully comprehend why some things aren't done, and then you need to establish a line they won't cross until they better understand later. It's not about violence, it's about authority.

Violence on the other end, can smother plenty of problem, but rarely RESOLVE them. If you truly think you can resolve anything just by hitting hard enough... well, you must have had your opinion applied a bit too many times on your head.

 

[PiMan]

Can you even name ONE thing that violence hasn't solved?

BDSM fetishes

 

[thekaje]

BDSM fetishes are not a problem in need of solving. They are simply a means of arousal.

Problems of all kinds are fixed by violence. Spanking is a form of authority-assertion, true, as is shouting. Both are forms of violence. Both are painful and frightening. Both establish authority.

 

[Truronian]

Naughty spot FTW!