A Hypothetical Dilemma

[azzaman333]

Ok, so there's this girl you like. You've liked her for years, but she's never shown any interest in you, even though you're close friends. So you finally begin to move on when you find this other girl, start hanging out, getting close, etc. Suddenly, the first girl decides she's interested in you, because she realises the competition exists. However, you don't know how committed she would be to a possible relationship. Whereas things with the second girl are going well, but she doesn't know anything about the situation with the first girl, and you feel guilty leading her on without telling her anything. You know you have to make a decision one way or another sooner rather than later, else you'll destroy any chance of a relationship with either.

Which way do you choose?

 

[TheLastOne36]

Which one is hotter?

 

[azzaman333]

Assume equal levels of attractiveness.

 

[Bill3000]

Which one cooks dinner better?

 

[GoodEnoughForMe]

Choose whichever one you are happier with.

 

[Defiant47]

Second one. Too high a chance the first one is just messing around with you, and it can be hard to take the first one seriously if she's interested in you simply because another girl likes you.

Interestingly enough, something like this happened to me way back in high school. I went for the first girl. Relationship lasted less than a month.

 

[Ayn Rand]

As a generalisation:

Second one.

The first girl's motivation probably has nothing to do with competition. Chances are it has to do with the realisation that without you, her main option in life is now loneliness, until someone else comes along. When that someone else comes along, she will probably leave you for him. But until then, she'll probably try to keep you interested as it is better than losing you if you're her only remaining option.

Choose the second one, she has real feelings for you and is a much better bet.

 

[Cull]

Remember, this is coming from someone who hasn't has date evar yet.

I would take the first one. Much better for a close friend than some hot girl you just got close with.

 

[warpus]

Do the second one, then the first one.

 

[BuckyRea]

Which way do you choose?

Keep girl #2, but string girl #1 along just in case. Just judging by history, I'd say girl #1 has been doing the same all along, keeping the guy on tap but never showing real interest. She only got interested after he found someone to go out with. Girl #2 likes the guy for himself and was willing to take the risk w/o conditions. Girl #1 may still be a viable Plan B, but I think there's a 50-50 chance that, if the guy and girl #2 break up, girl #1 will no longer be interested.

By the way, after looking at your avatar, I'm curious if either of these "hypothetical" girls is named Barbara.

On edit: Oh, check 'em both for crabs. You never know and, trust me, crabs is always a deal breaker.

 

[Zelig]

Speed up matters with the second one, so you can go with the first one if the second one doesn't work out.

 

[TheLastOne36]

Assume equal levels of attractiveness.

Depends then on whichever is smarter and you can stand being around with more.

Otherwise probably the second one, but try to keep the first one still interested.

 

[Neonanocyborgasm]

Ok, so there's this girl you like. You've liked her for years, but she's never shown any interest in you, even though you're close friends. So you finally begin to move on when you find this other girl, start hanging out, getting close, etc. Suddenly, the first girl decides she's interested in you, because she realises the competition exists. However, you don't know how committed she would be to a possible relationship. Whereas things with the second girl are going well, but she doesn't know anything about the situation with the first girl, and you feel guilty leading her on without telling her anything. You know you have to make a decision one way or another sooner rather than later, else you'll destroy any chance of a relationship with either.

Which way do you choose?

I would dump girl #1, even as a friend. Sounds like this so-called old friend is interested in little more than destroying your relationship simply to keep you as her inferior, for her own ego. Keep girl #2. She's the surer thing.

 

[sophie]

Remember, this is coming from someone who hasn't has date evar yet.

I would take the first one. Much better for a close friend than some hot girl you just got close with.

No. Dating advice number 1, youngling, don't date from your circle of friends. It almost always ends disastrously.

 

[Joecoolyo]

I've never dated before () but I would go with #2.

 

[civ_king]

Ok, so there's this girl you like. You've liked her for years, but she's never shown any interest in you, even though you're close friends. So you finally begin to move on when you find this other girl, start hanging out, getting close, etc. Suddenly, the first girl decides she's interested in you, because she realises the competition exists. However, you don't know how committed she would be to a possible relationship. Whereas things with the second girl are going well, but she doesn't know anything about the situation with the first girl, and you feel guilty leading her on without telling her anything. You know you have to make a decision one way or another sooner rather than later, else you'll destroy any chance of a relationship with either.

Which way do you choose?

Brains>Faithfulness>Looks>Wit>Cooking>Sex

I'd go with girl #2, I'm looking for someone to marry and spend the rest of my life with

 

[Omega124]

Which one cooks dinner better?

Anyways, go with Girl 2. Girl 1 is probably just jealous. But if 2 doesn't work, feel free to go out with 1. Just make sure the relationship is officially over.

 

[Kennigit]

Well, if it was me I would go with the first because I probably wouldn't have *acutally* moved on past liking girl #1.

Soooooo depends how much you liked #1. It seems consensus here for success rate is girl #2. But I would always want to be with girl #1.

This poster has no long term/serious relationship experience.

 

[Heretic_Cata]

Trace their lineages.

The choice should be obvious after that.

 

[Tee Kay]

I'd flip a coin.