BvBPL
Pour Decision Maker
Recently I was having dinner w/ my brother and his girlfriend and she asked me why men have few qualms about frankly discussing sexual issues in mixed company (i.e. “why are men pigs?”
. I pointed out to her that while it is true that men do behave in this manner, such behavior is frequently focused on generalities or fantasies rather than the men’s specific intimate details. In fact, discussion of specific details of a man’s love life is generally avoided.
I then contrasted the public discussion by men of sex with the semi-public discussion of sex among women by mentioning that women discuss the intimate details of their love lives quite freely. Women in a hair salon or among their girlfriends may share specific intimate details of their love lives, such as size, frequency, or what-have-you far more frequently then men would share those same details with other men. In fact men rarely share such intimate details with each other.
So with men you have public sexual conversation that amounts to mostly chest-pounding (“I’d like to bang her,” “Look at the tits on that one, boys,” whereas women discuss more specific details from their own personal experiences (“He must have been seven inches long,” “His tongue felt wonderful.”.
One interpretation of this is that public sexual expressions by men is a breach of public standards, but women’s discussion of the intimate details of a relationship is a breach of a personal and intimate trust.
What do you think?
(And I should note that the above examples are largely based on my personal anecdotal experience, although I think they are reflective of how the culture operates in general (and some scholarly writings support my thesis). In addition, I’m in the States, so my observations may not be universally applicable to other nations (but I think they are to the UK).)
. I pointed out to her that while it is true that men do behave in this manner, such behavior is frequently focused on generalities or fantasies rather than the men’s specific intimate details. In fact, discussion of specific details of a man’s love life is generally avoided. I then contrasted the public discussion by men of sex with the semi-public discussion of sex among women by mentioning that women discuss the intimate details of their love lives quite freely. Women in a hair salon or among their girlfriends may share specific intimate details of their love lives, such as size, frequency, or what-have-you far more frequently then men would share those same details with other men. In fact men rarely share such intimate details with each other.
So with men you have public sexual conversation that amounts to mostly chest-pounding (“I’d like to bang her,” “Look at the tits on that one, boys,”
whereas women discuss more specific details from their own personal experiences (“He must have been seven inches long,” “His tongue felt wonderful.”.One interpretation of this is that public sexual expressions by men is a breach of public standards, but women’s discussion of the intimate details of a relationship is a breach of a personal and intimate trust.
What do you think?
(And I should note that the above examples are largely based on my personal anecdotal experience, although I think they are reflective of how the culture operates in general (and some scholarly writings support my thesis). In addition, I’m in the States, so my observations may not be universally applicable to other nations (but I think they are to the UK).)
I could've sworn I read that somewhere.
