Ask A Girl IV: Boundless Questions

[Mise]

I'm with Narz and Eat Martha. I have never met anybody who was upset about holding a door open for them. I do it all the time, to everyone, because it's polite, and nobody ever takes offence.

Sierra Fox, you're doing it wrong.

 

[Boundless]

How many times do you stare at your boobs a day? Lord knows if I were a chick and I had boobs, I'd stare at them 24/7.

Hardly ever, I'm more likely to be caught staring at my stomach in the mirror - the part of my body I'm most obsessed over.

Let's talk hair.

Now, I don't mean pretty hair, I mean guy hair. And not that hair, all you dirty minded cfcers. I mean leg hair. In another thread (re: member photos), people are currently having a discussion about shoes. Apparently, you (Boundless) have also said in this thread that a "Shoe makes the outfit" or something similiar (I have not read the entire thread).

Now, I have rather hairy legs; quite often I have the hairiest legs in the room. And I frequently will wear flip flops in the summer/warm weather now. There is hair on my feet.

So if a shoe completes an outfit, presumably girls are looking at my feet and seeing hairy legs and semi-hairy feet. How much of a turn-off is hairy legs? Do women assume my chest will be extremely hairy too? (and how much of a turn off would that be?).

Hairy legs really don't bother me. I don't assume just because your legs are hairy your body will be too. In fact I've slept with people where the opposite has happened, so I really wouldn't worry. And plus, shoes aren't everyone's cup of tea - they just matter to me!

Why do so many Girls get pissed off when I guy opens the door for them?

I mean it so bad that I almost have stop doing it. The other Day I did it, and the girl was speechless.

Well if a boy held a door open for me I'd be chuffed, so I really wouldn't worry. Whatever girls you're holding the door open for are lemons.

 

[Shekwan]

Occasionally there's that awkward moment when I've misjudged a distance a held a door open for somebody before they arrived, so they scurried a little bit to make it through in short order. But yeah, nobody's ever got mad.

Haha I love this! I wonder what the maximum distance is to hold open a door is? If you were shameless you could hold open a door several metres before someone is going to pass through it, and just look at them, expectantly. How many would do that sped up shuffle to the door? How many would remain at a constant speed, like a boss? Would any outright run out of overwhelming instincts of politeness?

 

[Mise]

I remain at the speed I'm going, give a big smile, and shout to them "don't worry about it!" They usually smile back all polite and stuff and keep holding the door. But then it's on them, not me; I gave them a way out.

 

[Shekwan]

You suave SOB Mise, a true master of social nous.

 

[Mise]

Our office building has an absurd number of doors, and really long corridors. It's ridiculous. But you get tired of rushing after people holding doors open after a while...

I don't know if they resent me for not hurrying though, that's the only issue...

 

[Communisto]

I know this is completely subjective and I could have asked any of my friends-that-are-also-girls but for whatever reason im throwing this your way...

I had a brief extra-relational encounter with a girl about a year ago and the social buffer between her and my girlfriend is disappearing at an alarming rate, to the point where its entirely possible that she could find out sometime in the future.

Do I keep my mouth shut and possibly avoid devastating my girlfriend or get pre-emptive?

Also, puffy parachute pants and giant belts that dont hold anything up... whats that about?

 

[SuperJay]

Do I keep my mouth shut and possibly avoid devastating my girlfriend or get pre-emptive?

I think you should tell your girlfriend what happened. It's the only ethical choice, but it's also sensible from a damage-control perspective. If she finds out in any other way, the fallout will be much, much worse - and the longer you wait, the worse it gets. I know it'll suck - believe me - but in the long run I think you'll be better off for owning up to your mistake and making a confession.

Did this other girl know you were in a relationship at that time? What is your relationship with said girl nowadays? Is she vindictive and likely to rat you out?

Also, puffy parachute pants making a comeback... whats that about?

It's HammerTime.... again.

 

[Communisto]

It really wasnt anything more than a drunken fling, but a few weeks ago at a show (that my girl was also at) some chick asked me "Didnt you hook up with my friend XX?" and I had to pull the old "No, youre crazy" and throw my beer in her face before I ran away screaming.

Or maybe I just backed away. Still, it was a real haunted past vibe that came a little too close for comfort. The thing is, the probability of my girl finding out is still pretty slim, but getting larger all the time. Its the point where I'd either be cutting off an infected arm before the sickness spreads or be shooting my self in the foot.

 

[SuperJay]

It really wasnt anything more than a drunken fling, but a few weeks ago at a show (that my girl was also at) some chick asked me "Didnt you hook up with my friend XX?" and I had to pull the old "No, youre crazy" and throw my beer in her face before I ran away screaming.

Or maybe I just backed away. Still, it was a real haunted past vibe that came a little too close for comfort.

Yeah, I know just how that feels. And that's another reason to tell the truth, right now - those horrifying moments go away.

I've heard people say that you should just keep the infidelity to yourself if there's no chance the S.O. will find out, because the revelation is more damaging than not knowing, but that always seems self-serving to me. When I was cheated on, I found out about it on my own - my then-girlfriend didn't confess of her own accord - and when I confronted her with it, she lied to me and lied to me until faced with damning proof, so I dumped her afterwards. If she'd confessed of her own accord and been honest about her mistake, maybe things would have turned out differently.

 

[PeteAtoms]

I know most people don't like being lied to.

So, ladies, what are some of the more common lies you find yourselves telling men? Because we know you aren't all perfect angels

How often and what kind of lies are common between women?

Are there times when it might be a better idea for men to actually lie (white lies) to women than give the truth?


Link to video.

 

[SuperJay]

Are there times when it might be a better idea for men to actually lie (white lies) to women than give the truth?

"Do these pants make me look fat?"

 

[Mango Elephant]

One time I was at a table at lunch with 3 girls, and they asked me which one was the hottest. The answer was quite obvious, because two of them were teh ugs, but I still said 'all of you are beautiful'. Imagine the awkwardness if I had said the hot one was the hottest they would've been mad at me.

 

[Gamemaster77]

Well please help me with this scenario. There is this one girl who hates me, now I don't "like" her or anything but it is rather annoying because I see her all the time. It just peeked within the last couple weeks. I know why she doesn't like me, because I have been pretty aggravating to her since the beginning of the school year. Most other people I know wouldn't be excessively upset by it but she is so...anyways what would be the best way to stop this?

 

[PeteAtoms]

In what ways do you interact with her and why are you being aggravating?

 

[Mango Elephant]

Say you're sorry for aggravating her.

 

[Gamemaster77]

Well she is in a bunch of my classes after school and I see her often during track after school. I've been aggravating because well, some stuff I do can be annoying. I usually change the way I interact based on the person, but have rather ignored it with her...

 

[LucyDuke]

How many times do you stare at your boobs a day? Lord knows if I were a chick and I had boobs, I'd stare at them 24/7.

Not measured by day, but occasionally. I like 'em.

Why do so many Girls get pissed off when I guy opens the door for them?

I mean it so bad that I almost have stop doing it. The other Day I did it, and the girl was speechless.

The only thing that bothers me is when I hold the door and he tries to hold it and wait for me to walk through first. I got to it before you, I'll hold it, dammit, I wasn't waiting for the relief shift.

I guess they might feel like it's patronizing.

I just heard about a (very small) study that said men should wear eyeliner to attract women. At first I said "WTH?" then I thought of the appeal of rock musicians and Johnny Depp's Jack Sparrow character, and I know the appeal when I dress as him.

Is it weird for guys to wear eyeliner, as I'm thinking, or is there some truth to this?

It'd probably be weird if it was noticeable. Gives an emofag impression if you're not careful. I don't see anything weird about men wearing subtle makeup though.

I know this is completely subjective and I could have asked any of my friends-that-are-also-girls but for whatever reason im throwing this your way...

I had a brief extra-relational encounter with a girl about a year ago and the social buffer between her and my girlfriend is disappearing at an alarming rate, to the point where its entirely possible that she could find out sometime in the future.

Do I keep my mouth shut and possibly avoid devastating my girlfriend or get pre-emptive?

Also, puffy parachute pants and giant belts that dont hold anything up... whats that about?

Assume she's going to find out. It'd probably be better for her to hear it from you, right?

I know most people don't like being lied to.

So, ladies, what are some of the more common lies you find yourselves telling men? Because we know you aren't all perfect angels

How often and what kind of lies are common between women?

Are there times when it might be a better idea for men to actually lie (white lies) to women than give the truth?

I honestly can't think of anything significant. If I do I'll post.

Well please help me with this scenario. There is this one girl who hates me, now I don't "like" her or anything but it is rather annoying because I see her all the time. It just peeked within the last couple weeks. I know why she doesn't like me, because I have been pretty aggravating to her since the beginning of the school year. Most other people I know wouldn't be excessively upset by it but she is so...anyways what would be the best way to stop this?

Ignore her? How old are you?

 

[Gamemaster77]

Say you're sorry for aggravating her.

Well she would not think I'm being serious.

Ignore her? How old are you?

Fourteen, really can't if you read my above post.

 

[LucyDuke]

Fourteen, really can't if you read my above post.

That probably means she's around fourteen, too, right? Fourteen-year-old girls don't make any goddamn sense. There's nothing you can do. Stop being a pain in her ass and either she'll get over it or she won't get over it.