scherbchen
well that can´t be good
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well, its a bit more serious that that.
kudos for caring and kudos for coming here and opening yourself up to some potential kind of ridicule.
I wrote a long post but it ended up being more about my experiences than your problem so I scrapped it and I'll try to keep it concise.
- seeing a doctor does not hurt as a rule of thumb. if he thinks about seeing one try and get him to do that. heck, try to get him to see 5 and pick the one he thinks will be most likely to help.
- most people who suffer from depression (and speaking from my experience as a person who has suffered from it) are not prone to talk about their problems in the first place ("I am fine") but much rather try and hide the issue. I did that only once and that was while being intoxicated (which is why the phrase "harder drugs" lit a bulb in my head and having adverse reactions to recreational drugs popped into my head. don't discount a substance abuse problem) but then again everybody is different. and again seeing a doctor won't hurt.
- try not to be too protective of your friend and, yes, that is a paradox. if he is depressive he will try to shut you out of his life as soon as you try to pry and when he is sober. the easiest way, imho, is to stay close by doing routine laddish stuff like playing video games or any other kind of hobby and sit down for a talk later on. a couple of beers only to loosen the tongue and then probe the waters. a difficult task for anybody.