You didn't physically say it, no, but you seem to think that one is simply a more amplified version of the other, and I'm trying to explain to you that this is not so.
There are most definitely more amplified versions of depressions than others.
He didn't blame it purely on failing a class. He said that failing the class had given him a great deal of perspective on the world and his place therein, since failing a class in college is infinitely more serious than failing a class in high school, and that this newly-gained perspective was what drove him into melancholy.
Lots of people fail a class in college. It's a "lick your wounds" situation. Perhaps he could have done something better in the class rather than party every weekend, study harder for the final exam, etc etc. But if it's his own fault he failed, why whine and get depressed?
if it was entirely out of his control and it almost seemed "ripped" out of him, the course, then yes, maybe there is a good reason for depression, especially if it was an essential course for your work field.
Oh and its for you to decide whether his is or isn't?
I never said he was or wasn't depressed. People can get depressed with a slight change in their chemical balance rather than something occurring in their life.
I suspect you have a great lack of introverse perspective, then, to have gone through this yet prove unable to understand when someone else does.
I understand just fine. But being stubborn and saying that you can't pull yourself out of a depression is ignorant. I'm sure there are several people who have gotten out of a severe depression to the extent of bodily issues through their own mental capabilities. It's not all "OH DEARY ME, I MUST TAKE PILLS AND GO TO A PSYCHIATRIST".
Then you were not depressed but simply in a melancholy. I know, because I have been in both. Will power brought me out of the doldrums, but sheer fate saved me from depression. And there are others who have it far worse than I ever did. I cannot say I envy them one bit.
I doubt you have better credentials than qualified psychiatrists and pediatricians who specialize in psychology.
Do note that everybody's mind is different. Some may be capable of mental will, some may not. Which is why all advice should be given.
Well not all depressions lead to suicidal thoughts. I know I never thought about committing suicide, but I did think about how I could do it if I wanted to, and what the result of that would be on the people in my life.
Same here. At the time though, I always thought "nobody would care". Now I kinda realize that some people would indeed care and probably be quite traumatized.
I can see that it did not. I promise you, sacrificing a bit of your humanity now to pretend to be indifferent to your loss with come back to get you later. Its really no different from someone in Vietnam, for example, manning up when their squadmate died, even making jokes about it, because they had to to save their sanity, but they broke down later when they came back to the states, if they were lucky enough to make it that far. Some just shot themselves there. Others never did break down, and remained shells of their former selves, unable to cope with their experiences.
I am not indifferent to my loss. I realize my loss, I accepted my loss, and I followed through with what my dad would have wanted me to do after he was gone. Is that sacrificing my humanity? Perhaps, but I'm guessing that's a worthy sacrifice to make my father proud.
I am coping just fine with my father's death. I spend every day doing the things I used to do with him, such as cleaning the car, playing some hockey on the PS3, watching movies, eating breakfast. Sometimes it is a nice memory, sometimes it tears a hole. But you have to move on in life and keep pushing instead of falling right where you're standing and making it extra difficult to stand back up.
Don't make the mistake of thinking that Vulcan-like suppression of emotion to your very core makes you more the man, or that its psychologically healthy. As they say, Big Boys don't cry, but Men aren't afraid to.
I used plenty emotions upon the death of my dad. Anger, sadness, despair, all bunched into one nice big pile. It's a matter of sorting through it and finding strength off of it.
Just as a note, the Vulcans were some of the most emotional people in Star Trek, since we're heading into that direction anyways.
) and never met anyone who was.
