Loppan Torkel
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:-/ that one back-fired..
Isn't there a difference between fruitless arguing back and forth, and reasoned discussion which seeks to discover the truth?That kinda misses the point of the internet
@Oruc
My question was about whether he had attempted to understand views which were not his own. He seemed to outline something about such views can evolve from "MRAist" to "enlightened feminist". Or something along those lines.
I didn't find it unconvincing. How about you?
Certainly, the joke was that many people prefer winning over truth on the internet.Isn't there a difference between fruitless arguing back and forth, and reasoned discussion which seeks to discover the truth?
I did not say they could not argue, I said that they should try and listen for a change.
It's not about "respect". It's nothing so moralistic. The reasoning is, oppression exists, and the oppressed understand their experiences better than those who merely witness their oppression. Women understand the experience of being women in a sexist society better than men do. Black people understand the experience of being black in a racist society better than white people do. The same doesn't work in reverse: there is little about being a white person that would be alien to a black person, because white people are the cultural default. With gender it's a little trickier, I think, because masculinity carries certain ideals in a way that whiteness doesn't (it's been noted that gender simultaneous functions as a bipolar and a unipolar system, depending on context), but the difference in experience is still in favour of women.I certainly see your point here and I am willing to concede that I lack adequate awareness of their troubles. I see how important that is and how at the same it is all too convenient to not bother with that as much as it would be necessary.
However, I still can not befriend myself with the dogma of "our worry needs to be starting point of it all". People come from different angles and life experiences and I am with Borochia that the most fruitful approach is to respect every one of those equally. Whereas respect means they deserve engagement and recognition. Not just dismissal.
Good luck with trying to change biology and evolution. We have been taught that free sex does not come with a price. So all we are going to get is arguments over the reality of the situation. There will never be any resolution though.
I'm talking about the frequent framing of this issue (and many others) in popular left-of-center media with an exclusive focus on women.
They could really only do any worse if they wrote op-eds about the terrible effect of prostate cancer on women (wait, actually i bet they've already done that).
What you can of course do is to assert that this is not feminism, that this is merely intelectually light-weight journalists trying to do feminism and succeeding only in part, to put it mildly.
If that is so, then there has to be a push among feminist academia to actively grab the mic and do these things right before incompetent slightly feministy journalists do it wrong.
I refer you, again, to the CDC report on the matter. Table 4.1 and 4.2
http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/pdf/NISVS_Report2010-a.pdf
If anything the 40% figure would be too low for the US.
The "Mankind Initiative" is a UK based non-profit.
@Crezth
I am not arguing that culturally constructed gender roles play no role in inter-gender-violence. Nor am I arguing that it wasn't fruitful to focus on violence against women as a distinct phenomena.
All I am arguing is that if gender roles didn't exist we shouldn't have a ratio of 1:1 of inter-gender violence, because constructed social roles simply are not the only relevant factor in inter-gender-violence. But only then would it make sense to say that our aim should be that the ratio is 1:1.
As it is, IMO our aim should simply be that there is less violence. Whereas one fruitful measure can be to focus on violence fueled by gender roles. But not to get a ratio of 1:1, but to decrease absolute violence.
any movement towards equality begins from the experience of inequality
#1 : There are no "people like Narz" (though many may wish to be in that catagory).They shouldn't, and it's unfortunate that they do. But when so many of the people talking about male abuse victims are people like Narz, who have no actual interest in the well-being male abuse victims but merely wish to use the issue as an anti-feminist cudgel, it's easy to see how they become numb to it.
Thank you.instead saying that I thought that was a probably unfair characterization of Narz
...Yes? Care to provide evidence of where I "haven't listened?"
I still listen to what these people say here, but I already know what they're thinking
there is little about being a white person that would be alien to a black person, because white people are the cultural default.
Do you see anything ironic about you, as a white male telling other white males their opinions don't matter because they are white males? Just curious.In which a white man lectures feminists and POC on how to liberate themselves correctly.
The irony is, you don't realize what a farce you are. There's a very good reason advocates of the above movements distance themselves from you: because you lecture them from a position of privilege. Do you not see the irony, as a man, of telling women that they're doing feminism wrong? Do you not see the irony, as a White (I'm pretty sure you're White), of telling POC that they're doing liberation wrong? The point of these movements is to escape the domination of men and of whites, respectively. So you lecturing them on how to liberate themselves correctly is really an extension of what they're trying to escape.
Before you swoop in and go "oh yeah, well what are you doing then?" I don't lecture those people about those things. I talk to them to find out what they want from us, as white men, and I listen. The answer is almost invariably "clear the way for us." So I talk to other whites and to other men about what women and POC say they want for their liberation.
Indeed. It's hard to have an intelligent discussion when someone is treating you as a sterotype rather than responding to what you are actually saying.is a big part of the problem. If you think that, you may not really be listening as well as you believe you are.
The idea that there is a singular "black" or "white" or "male" or "female" experience is ridiculous. If I know a woman for 10 years I'm going to understand her mind/experience better than a random female who doesn't know her at all. The idea that a certain color skin or type of genitalia is a prerequisite for understand another person's experience is... well, unreal. What helps you understand a person's experience is listening & trying to visualize what its like in their shoes.Dang, that's one I want to crack into too. Why wouldn't the experience of being the cultural default be as alien to a black person as the experience of being a black person is to a white person?
Do you see anything ironic about you, as a white male telling other white males their opinions don't matter because they are white males? Just curious.
Do you see anything ironic about you, as a white male telling other white males their opinions don't matter because they are white males? Just curious.
It's a point of feminism that white men aren't allowed to argue without first considering what it might be like to be somebody who is not a white man. That people of colour are best acquainted with the experiences of people of colour and that women are best acquainted with the experiences of women, and that if white people or men want to get involved in these discussions, they have to begin with those experiences.
It's not about "respect". It's nothing so moralistic. The reasoning is, oppression exists, and the oppressed understand their experiences better than those who merely witness their oppression. Women understand the experience of being women in a sexist society better than men do. Black people understand the experience of being black in a racist society better than white people do. The same doesn't work in reverse: there is little about being a white person that would be alien to a black person, because white people are the cultural default. With gender it's a little trickier, I think, because masculinity carries certain ideals in a way that whiteness doesn't (it's been noted that gender simultaneous functions as a bipolar and a unipolar system, depending on context), but the difference in experience is still in favour of women.
None of this means that women or people of colour are always right. They disagree amongst themselves, so at least some of them must be wrong some of them time. And it's not to say that experience is everything, because arguments for the existence of racism and sexism are strongest when they can call upon empirical evidence. But it's a recognition that experience is central, and that any movement towards equality begins from the experience of inequality. That lends women, people of colour, and other marginalised people are certain epistemic privilege over us cultural defaults, and that places a duty on us to shut up and listen.
Because experience isn't limited to direct physical experience. Black people still inhabit the same cultural universe as black people, submersed as much as white people are in a cultural framework which takes the generic human to be white, and presents the generic human experience as such. They wouldn't have the experience of individual white people and how they relate to their whiteness- although that is also true of other white people- but they certainly have access to a generic white experience in a which way white people really don't have access to a n equivalent generic black experience.Dang, that's one I want to crack into too. Why wouldn't the experience of being the cultural default be as alien to a black person as the experience of being a black person is to a white person?
That is explicitly not what Cheezy has argued. Disagree with him if you must, be at least try to disagree with the position he is actually presenting.Yeah, this is the most maddening thing. Being of the male gender disqualifies all the rest of us from posting, but not him!
You're muddling my claim a bit, here. What I'm suggesting is that the experience of inequality is a necessary condition for a movement towards equality, but not that it's a sufficient one. As you say, inequality just as often breeds inequality.Is this true?
Often enough the reverse seems to be true.
Those who experience prejudice are more likely to be prejudiced against others.
People who were abused as children very often abuse children themselves.
The injustice experienced by Jewish people is only too easily inflicted on Palestians.
I exaggerate, I expect, but I certainly suspect the truth of your statement.
Do you see anything ironic about you, as a white male telling other white males their opinions don't matter because they are white males? Just curious.