Is it okay to use a coupon on a date?

[NickyJ]

Use the coupon. Who cares? Shows you have initiative!

Agreed. It also shows economic awareness. You're willing to save money when you can.

 

[NovaKart]

I guess the dates I've been on have been different. Either we hit it off or we didn't, it wasn't like a game the way some people do it.

 

[Takhisis]

These days, with the economy being what it is, I dont think it means your're cheap, it means you are thrifty and dollar conscious.

Btw, if you think your dates going to freak out about then just be discrete about it.

But there is nothing wrong with using a coupon for a date.

It also might show that you've got no other way to make ends meet, might induce a woobie moment.

 

[MobBoss]

It also might show that you've got no other way to make ends meet, might induce a woobie moment.

Well, if he drives his date to the restaurant in his '76 Pacer and tells her he lives with his mom you might have a point. But then he would be doomed with or without the coupon.

Point being, there are going to be other obvious clues that he is struggling financially to a woman other than the fact he is using a coupon to save a few bucks on drinks and dinner.

Seriously, if he spends 100 bucks on a dinner date and saves 10 or 20 with a coupon thats not going to indicate he is fiscally struggling.

Plus, using a groupon or social living coupon for a date isnt like your cutting coupons out of the paper to save on groceries. Everyone I know is using the darn things these days and some absolutely great values are to be had. I'd say you'd come off looking smart and hip for using a groupon, not stingy.

 

[kochman]

No... don't do it...
If you buy the groupon, you buy it in advance. So, if you whip out the coupon on the date, the girl feels like you are some serial dater who has a bunch lined up to save money...
She wants to believe she is unique.

So, you can start using groupons when you talk about buying them when you are already with her...

You can realistically get a 1 time exemption if you say something in advance about just happening to have a groupon for whatever, and then suggesting that place...

 

[Defiant47]

I'd say you'd come off looking smart and hip for using a groupon, not stingy.

Umm... perhaps not for this generation

 

[MobBoss]

Umm... perhaps not for this generation

Do you have any idea how many people in their 20s I work with? And i'd say the majority of them use groupon/social living. Perhaps its a Pac NW thing, but everyone seems to be using them up here now.

 

[Antilogic]

I wouldn't do it on the first date, but afterwards I've found "having a coupon" is a great excuse for an outing--hey, I haven't been here before, want to try it?

Of course, everyone in grad school doesn't stack paper, so your mileage may differ.

 

[mrt144]

I wouldn't take a date out on the first date to a place that accepts coupons. BAM!

 

[Takhisis]

Well, if he drives his date to the restaurant in his '76 Pacer and tells her he lives with his mom you might have a point. But then he would be doomed with or without the coupon.

Cultural differences. In other places you don't need your own place and your own car to be considered date-worthy.

Point being, there are going to be other obvious clues that he is struggling financially to a woman other than the fact he is using a coupon to save a few bucks on drinks and dinner.

Seriously, if he spends 100 bucks on a dinner date and saves 10 or 20 with a coupon thats not going to indicate he is fiscally struggling.

Plus, using a groupon or social living coupon for a date isnt like your cutting coupons out of the paper to save on groceries. Everyone I know is using the darn things these days and some absolutely great values are to be had. I'd say you'd come off looking smart and hip for using a groupon, not stingy.

So coupons are actually cool now? Interesting. Reminds me of a cousin who was paid in coupons for some reason (long time ago, long story) and whenever there was a family outing we looked a bit like a bunch of cheap-os.

I wouldn't do it on the first date, but afterwards I've found "having a coupon" is a great excuse for an outing--hey, I haven't been here before, want to try it?

Of course, everyone in grad school doesn't stack paper, so your mileage may differ.

Yes but in this case the guy took out the coupons when they were already at the date.

 

[Kennigit]

I swear we had this thread last year.

edit. oh wait, warpus already mentioned it.

 

[Zelig]

Do you have any idea how many people in their 20s I work with? And i'd say the majority of them use groupon/social living. Perhaps its a Pac NW thing, but everyone seems to be using them up here now.

I work with a lot of people in their 40s and they tend to be really bad at recognizing or keeping up with social trends.

 

[Azash]

Do you have any idea how many people in their 20s I work with? And i'd say the majority of them use groupon/social living. Perhaps its a Pac NW thing, but everyone seems to be using them up here now.

Well, I study with a bunch of Christians and that doesn't really grant me deeper insight into their churchgoing habits.. Regardless, using groupons depends a lot on the situation. When you're with friends, it's just fine since really, everyone is a bit short on cash at that point. But I doubt anyone's going to use groupons with, like, new acquaintances, work-related stuff, dates..

 

[Formaldehyde]

I would say it depends. If it is someplace which she clearly enjoys, I doubt it will be perceived negatively. However, if it is to an activity or a restaurant she isn't very thrilled about and thinks you should have known that, it may very well be the death knell to your future sexual activity. I wouldn't take the chance with a new date. But once you have been out a few times, I don't think it really matters just as long as she enjoys herself.

I also wouldn't make a habit of it unless she shows clear signs of being extremely cheap herself, and thinks even more highly of you for doing so.

 

[mrt144]

The worst thing about using a coupon is the the cheapskates that tip based on post coupon amount. Avoid that faux pas.

 

[Quackers]

Nothing wrong with doing it at all.

I still wouldn't do it though.

When i go out to a resteraunt my GF doesn't even allow me to tip £1, because we are students! As usual if a woman judges you massively on whether you use a coupon or not...a GTFO is in order.

 

[Zelig]

The worst thing about using a coupon is the the cheapskates that tip based on post coupon amount. Avoid that faux pas.

My standard tip amount is $0, and I'll then I'll tip the difference between the original price and the discounted price, so the bigger discount I get, the bigger tip you get!

 

[Supr49er]

I would wait a few dates first.

 

[Tani Coyote]

I'd take frugality over tradition in a date. I like seeing people who take the initiative in cutting costs.

If a person makes a big deal over you saving money(which can be spent on another date later on!), they're probably not worth being with.

Personally, if a date should have any perceptions with regards to money, it should be if the man pays or not. I myself don't see why the man should have to pay for a date; I think whoever initiates a relationship should pay. That way, you are buying your way into their heart.

 

[Formaldehyde]

Another point to consider. This will most likely be discussed in detail with her friends, especially if you have not dated much. Your nickname will probably become "the coupon guy" even if they approve of you.