Random Rants LV: The Joy of Ranting

[GenMarshall]

Rant: I'm starting to feel that I'm harming myself by holding onto grudges for a few months.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

I actually agree it is good to share a place,
but, but
I said that as someone who has house guests till probably next March...

an adult makes sensible reasoned decisions, something I throw out the window, when I said ''no problem'' to my cousin in the UK when he told me his daughter and her boyfriend were backpacking to Australia... they are lovely people but my monthly BBQ, with a few friends has turn into the UN backpackers conference. I just don't speak enough German Swedish and Canadian

it is a rants thread and why did I suggest staying till march for the grand prix was no problem, when he mentioned he liked motor sports

Unless your Canadian guests are from the Maritimes or Quebec, are Cree or Inuit, or use expressions common to rural Prairie dwellers, you should have no problem "speaking Canadian."

At least you didn't tell them they could stay until hog-brandin' time.*


*Flintstones reference, when Fred invites his hillbilly cousins to stay for a visit.

 

[The_J]

Cute girl on train, but I'm pretty sure it's not socially acceptable to strike up conversation with strangers on public transport, and I'm certain it's not acceptable to try to start up conversation on public transport when they have earphones in/headphones on.

As if you should care.
Some people might think it's strange (so what?), others might think that you must have quite some balls to try that.
And what's the worst thing what could happen? That she ignores you? Eh, not really bad, isn't it?

One of my colleagues has already chatted up some girl in the bus (and got her number), and I've also approached a girl who had headphones on (just needs a better conversation starter). Okay, that didn't work, but "I have a boyfriend" is a good excuse.

Rant: I'm starting to feel that I'm harming myself by holding onto grudges for a few months.

That's definitely true. Accumulating anger is unhealthy, just causes stress. You need to do something to relief that. Either deal with the people, or find another way to get rid of the stress, e.g. sports.

 

[azzaman333]

As if you should care.
Some people might think it's strange (so what?), others might think that you must have quite some balls to try that.
And what's the worst thing what could happen? That she ignores you? Eh, not really bad, isn't it?

One of my colleagues has already chatted up some girl in the bus (and got her number), and I've also approached a girl who had headphones on (just needs a better conversation starter). Okay, that didn't work, but "I have a boyfriend" is a good excuse.

I wouldn't want someone to talk to me on the train, so I return the favour so to speak.

 

[Loppan Torkel]

I wouldn't want someone to talk to me on the train, so I return the favour so to speak.

You're not a cute girl though.

 

[azzaman333]

If I was, I still wouldn't want people talking me on the train.

 

[Arakhor]

I'm pretty sure it's not socially acceptable to strike up conversation with strangers on public transport...

I don't see anything wrong with that. It might be conventional, but it's hardly unacceptable.

 

[Kyriakos]

There isn't anything wrong with it, provided you look good

edit: just read the short story "That Pig of a Morin", by Guy de Maupassant. Ruins the mood (if you don't look good, or are somewhat half-decent as a human being ).

 

[gay_Aleks]

A nice tilia tea plus some food = good combo.

 

[ReindeerThistle]

These are the kind of FB friends I have:

Please pray for me as my fiancée and I have hit a rough spot in our relationship. She has been keeping a secret from me and finding out has been devastating:

She neither follows nor cares about professional football.

The strain it has placed on us is immeasureable. I was unable to brag and boast about the 51 - 23 New England Patriots victory over the Chicago Bears (she lives in Chicago) and the ego deflation has left me in a deep funk.

Please, friends, like my status and post comments that reaffirm my being. Don't forget to mention how lucky she is to have me.
...

"RT", I am with your fiancé.

Sorry for your loss, but she's better off without you.

 

[Arakhor]

Disclaimer for honesty: I don't care about Association football, let alone your American variety.

That said, I'm totally with your fiancée.

 

[Farm Boy]

American football is a plague upon the health of our high school students nationwide. It's an unhealthy and barbaric pastime. I'd vote for making it illegal for our children to play in public schools. I think less of the parents that encourage their children to take it up.

 

[dusters]

Dear CFC, facebook and klab.lv

I'm fed up, so this will be a rant. It is about self-esteem. I have got none. Zero.

Recently I wrote an autobiography about my recent 6 years. The girl I mentioned there, Diana, she was one of the central points. I met her in 2012, probably. We were pen-friends for a long time. I saw her blog in klab.lv and she seemed very depressed, so i wrote her to cheer up and to tell her to seize what opportunities she still has. She wanted to meet me in real life or i just wanted to meet her, because she seemed desperate.

Anyway. We met and i thought we were friends. In my bio, i told/wrote everything that i have felt towards her and still feel to this day. I basically told that i love her as a friend. I love her very much.

Early in 2014, we got into a very loud quarrel while she was at my place. She told me to forget her if it's better for me, but to try to "love" her one last time. I couldn't do either. She was and always will be a friend. i don't sleep with friends. And i don't forget friends.

I totally felt like cutting after that quarrel. Instead i dyed my hair black.

After i published my bio on fb, she messaged me in a very angry tone to delete everything about her.

Like as if she wasn't a part of my life. Like as if she didn't write those hundreds of messages earlier. Like if we hadn't met in real life. Like if she didn't eat my food which i made for her when she came over many times earlier in spring of 2014.

She wants me to forget her? Ok, i can try that. But i can't pretend she doesn't exist. She has made a big impact on my life - my relationship with mom had worsened, my relationship with a sister could be better.

I know it is all my fault, it always is. There is no justice to earnest people who want to help someone like her, who claims to be without parents or relatives.

Did i not trust her? Did i abuse her? Did i take advantage of her?

No. I listened to her story. I gave her food and comfort when others weren't near. And now she wants me to delete the part in my bio where I say she is dear to me. She didn't even explain herself. She was so angry in the messages. She even cursed at me for mentioning her.

What have I done? Giving food and a shelter to a stranger is a crime?

I cut my black hair yesterday.

It is a new beginning of still trusting strangers.

I don't care anymore - you can take my everything. I got nothing anyway - mom doesn't speak with me anymore.

Today is the first day. I got nobody, but an elderish woman i rarely meet in the cemetry. She likes to talk with me now and then.

I have got no church, no friends who ask me "How are you" and my relatives, except for mom and two sisters, are dead.

This is a day i can say for sure - i will get a stable job and not bother with women anymore, unless they approach me first.

 

[bhsup]

Well I'm with you, RT! Suck it, Bears! We just need to find a good re-education camp for her.

EDIT: Regarding the re-education camp, I had a thought. John Maddon's house for a couple of months. Think that would do it?

 

[Timsup2nothin]

Parents tell their children "don't talk to strangers".

Children who don't comply get told again, and again, and again. Those who do still get reminded regularly.

By the time we reach adulthood fear of strangers is so deeply engrained that striking up a conversation on public transport, or in a bar, or anywhere else, is nearly impossible.

People need to grow the <...> up. If someone says hello it probably doesn't mean they are trying to wave a lollipop like a magic wand and levitate you into a van.

 

[Farm Boy]

Parents tell their children "don't talk to strangers".

Children who don't comply get told again, and again, and again. Those who do still get reminded regularly.

By the time we reach adulthood fear of strangers is so deeply engrained that striking up a conversation on public transport, or in a bar, or anywhere else, is nearly impossible.

People need to grow the <...> up. If someone says hello it probably doesn't mean they are trying to wave a lollipop like a magic wand and levitate you into a van.

It's pretty telling that the "this is verbal abuse in NYC" video up right now on CNN regarding catcalls included a pretty significant portion of people asking not impolite tones "What's up Miss," "How are you doing," and "Have a nice evening," alongside the creeper that invaded her personal space for 5 minutes. The whole thing depressed me. The obvious harassment sucks and the people who are reporting on the harassment suck too.

Linky.

 

[ReindeerThistle]

@Dusters: it is never solely one person's fault. Relationships are like that. Codependent relationships are worse, especially if you are NOT codependent.

Don't hinge your hopes and dreams on any one person's attitude about you. Moods come and go, but what we DO, well, that's another matter.

Be yourself, whoever you want. Be true to yourself, and I think you will get what you want. By writing about it, you show you are cognizant there is something you can change, and that's a good start.

PM me anytime. I got two ears and one mouth for a reason.

 

[JohannaK]

Spoiler :

Dear CFC, facebook and klab.lv

I'm fed up, so this will be a rant. It is about self-esteem. I have got none. Zero.

Recently I wrote an autobiography about my recent 6 years. The girl I mentioned there, Diana, she was one of the central points. I met her in 2012, probably. We were pen-friends for a long time. I saw her blog in klab.lv and she seemed very depressed, so i wrote her to cheer up and to tell her to seize what opportunities she still has. She wanted to meet me in real life or i just wanted to meet her, because she seemed desperate.

Anyway. We met and i thought we were friends. In my bio, i told/wrote everything that i have felt towards her and still feel to this day. I basically told that i love her as a friend. I love her very much.

Early in 2014, we got into a very loud quarrel while she was at my place. She told me to forget her if it's better for me, but to try to "love" her one last time. I couldn't do either. She was and always will be a friend. i don't sleep with friends. And i don't forget friends.

I totally felt like cutting after that quarrel. Instead i dyed my hair black.

After i published my bio on fb, she messaged me in a very angry tone to delete everything about her.

Like as if she wasn't a part of my life. Like as if she didn't write those hundreds of messages earlier. Like if we hadn't met in real life. Like if she didn't eat my food which i made for her when she came over many times earlier in spring of 2014.

She wants me to forget her? Ok, i can try that. But i can't pretend she doesn't exist. She has made a big impact on my life - my relationship with mom had worsened, my relationship with a sister could be better.

I know it is all my fault, it always is. There is no justice to earnest people who want to help someone like her, who claims to be without parents or relatives.

Did i not trust her? Did i abuse her? Did i take advantage of her?

No. I listened to her story. I gave her food and comfort when others weren't near. And now she wants me to delete the part in my bio where I say she is dear to me. She didn't even explain herself. She was so angry in the messages. She even cursed at me for mentioning her.

What have I done? Giving food and a shelter to a stranger is a crime?

I cut my black hair yesterday.

It is a new beginning of still trusting strangers.

I don't care anymore - you can take my everything. I got nothing anyway - mom doesn't speak with me anymore.

Today is the first day. I got nobody, but an elderish woman i rarely meet in the cemetry. She likes to talk with me now and then.

I have got no church, no friends who ask me "How are you" and my relatives, except for mom, are dead.

This is a day i can say for sure - i will get a stable job and not bother with women anymore, unless they approach me first.

The only proper answer is a hug. We are here for you now.

 

[dusters]

Thanks Reindeer.

I just... have been doing too much so called charity work and helping people around when i even don't have a stable job myself at age of 27. i want to feel like somebody needs me. Like somebody needs taken care of ( in adult type of way) and loved and i could give that Love and Care.

I sound like my grandma's sis when she was 82. She was doing dishes. Always. That's what she could do at such an age. She feared being useless.

My talk about being geisha earlier - at least i have a sexy body for a man/transvestite. At least there is some use of me.

Now i give private lessons in math/Latvian/English and it sure feels great. My mom doesn't want me to study physics anymore and i got to get a job instead.

I wish i could join army, despite having -2.0 eyesight.

@Thanks Joan

The local LGBT organisation, while they didn't like me resorting to being a geisha, they know it's hard. I still don't know if i should take HRT or stay as I am, despite feeling like a girl for past 14 years.

Big thanks. And i apologise for being too cocky on CFC sometimes. I'm trying to prove myself. To the world. Sorry.

 

[choxorn]

I don't see anything wrong with that. It might be conventional, but it's hardly unacceptable.

Normally I'd agree, but I'd say wearing headphones/earphones is a pretty clear "I don't want people to talk to me right now" sign that makes it a bit less acceptable to talk to her...