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[Timsup2nothin]

Welp, I've read the article you linked to. While I find it interesting, I disagree with it on one premise. Happiness is not a choice. It is the result of your choices. I don't know before hand if a choice will make me happy. I can only trust that it does.

Happiness is a choice, it is just a choice that requires a certain amount of power to be able to make and most people have not learned to bring that amount of power to their choosing. I can choose to be happy and no circumstance or situation is required, nor is any circumstance capable of overcoming my choice...most times.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

It's not a result of your choices either. It's biology and circumstances beyond your control.

Happiness can be both causes.

Happiness is a choice, it is just a choice that requires a certain amount of power to be able to make and most people have not learned to bring that amount of power to their choosing. I can choose to be happy and no circumstance or situation is required, nor is any circumstance capable of overcoming my choice...most times.

Ask any doctor who is knowledgeable about hypothyroidism. They will tell you that depression is part of that disease, as it affects brain chemistry. The patient can take medication and try to live as positive a life as possible, but there's always that part that can't be willfully controlled.

 

[cybrxkhan]

Feeling depressed because of loneliness and being Asian. Former's not much an issue objectively and in the long run (I'm currently the most social I've been in years), latter, not as much.

I'm kind of annoyed at my mom. She told my brother to call me bhaijan (Hindi word for big brother which implies respect and deference) and I asked him to stop, but my mom told him to call me that over my objections. She told me it makes her feel better, but my brother calling me by that name seriously annoys me.

My mom has sometimes told my brother to address me as Anh (Vietnamese for older brother), but she was generally joking around. I wouldn't really care. I do think being formal and all is kind of cool but whatever.

 

[shadowplay]

*hugs*

 

[sophie]

Feeling depressed because of loneliness and being Asian. Former's not much an issue objectively and in the long run (I'm currently the most social I've been in years), latter, not as much.

 

[jackelgull]

Feeling depressed because of loneliness and being Asian. Former's not much an issue objectively and in the long run (I'm currently the most social I've been in years), latter, not as much.

How is being Asian making you depressed?

 

[cybrxkhan]

Thanks for the hugs. *hugs* back

How is being Asian making you depressed?

I think in the past couple of months I'm starting to realize the effect that Asian stereotypes and racism and whatever are having on me. It makes me feel powerless, emasculated, incapable. Also because these can be very touchy, controversial issues, it makes me feel like I don't know where to turn to because I'm not fond of rubbing people the wrong way even if it's justified.

That said I think I am in a very insecure, anxious, and depressed point in my life for various reasons (certainly, it will end, but probably not today) so it's easier for negative things to affect me more than they would have so I guess it's not so much being Asian but I'm just drawing in a lot of negativity into myself at the moment and I'm trying hard to find productive, positive outlets and not let it overwhelm me.

 

[Borachio]

Have you ever considered being some other stereotype?

I'd suggest Inuit or maybe Koisan. But maybe something nearer would be more appropriate? How about Iranian?

Perhaps you could adopt the mannerisms of a very fat gay person. Or maybe a circus clown. Or an accountant.

Or rat catcher.

But whatever you choose, I think not conforming to a depressed stereotype might prove helpful.

 

[Takhisis]

Waaaait a minute, NovaKart. You don't walk around shirtless while screaming hai-yaaa! and chopping blocks of wood with your bare hands? You're not that Asian then.

 

[cybrxkhan]

Have you ever considered being some other stereotype?

I'd suggest Inuit or maybe Koisan. But maybe something nearer would be more appropriate? How about Iranian?

Perhaps you could adopt the mannerisms of a very fat gay person. Or maybe a circus clown. Or an accountant.

Or rat catcher.

But whatever you choose, I think not conforming to a depressed stereotype might prove helpful.

In a number of ways I do fit the Asian stereotypes - introverted, plays piano well, does well in school, and so on - but I am fine with that. I'm less fine with people assuming I'm a stereotype, assuming my achievements are lesser, just because I happen to fulfill some of the criteria, but I'm trying to be more confident with myself in that regard and trying to not let that get to my head.

I might be able to pull off Iranian, actually. There's always been a number of Iranians in the places I've lived, and my dad (and brother!) can pass off as Iranian, so I could pretend I'm half-Iranian or something. D:

Inuits also look very Asian too, actually, if you've ever seen pictures of them! It is quite amusing.

Waaaait a minute, NovaKart. You don't walk around shirtless while screaming hai-yaaa! and chopping blocks of wood with your bare hands? You're not that Asian then.

Nope.

I don't even eat rice everyday bro. I do eat it a lot, though. White rice, mainly.

 

[bhavv]

I have to agree that being Asian sucks.

 

[cybrxkhan]

I have to agree that being Asian sucks.

*Asian bro first and hug*

 

[Arakhor]

Would you prefer being skinny, white and autistic? I'll swap for a couple of days if you like.

 

[cybrxkhan]

Would you prefer being skinny, white and autistic? I'll swap for a couple of days if you like.

I'm already skinny - still technically unheathily underweight - thanks to my Crohn's disease, so not much difference. Heck I would wager a guess I might end up gaining a few pounds.

Autistic. I guess I got depression and anxiety, not exactly equivalent but my mental state isn't exactly perfect.

Well, I guess I'm not white.

Hmm. Sorry if that sounded bitter. I know everyone has their problems I guess.

 

[Arakhor]

I may have mentioned once or twice that I hover around the 120 lb mark and, trust me, I look it.

 

[Takhisis]

Would you prefer being skinny, white and autistic? I'll swap for a couple of days if you like.

Hey, tell them about the whole package! You probably wear glasses and have an English accent, to boot.

 

[Arakhor]

Autistic spectrum disorders are frequently comorbid with poor sight (for some reason), so yes, on both counts.

 

[Snerk]

Would you prefer being skinny, white and autistic? I'll swap for a couple of days if you like.

But you are the only normal person on CFC??!

 

[SS-18 ICBM]

Can people from other cities tell me about your subway systems? How many lines are there? How many are closed every other weekend for "signal work"? How many of those lines then end up having signal problems like once a week or more?

 

[Arakhor]

But you are the only normal person on CFC??!

I'm so very glad you think that. Clearly we've never met before.