Random Rants XLII: The Four-Part Plan

[JohannaK]

That's so easy to say. But I'm a person of weak will. I know, and it is really hard for me.

 

[Peck of Arabia]

I faced something similar in my last year of university- something between being unable to transform what I knew into what was required (turned out there was very little overlap)- and a lack of willpower to do what they do in movie montages and pick myself up through dedication and hard work.


How to snap out of it? When I find out, I'll let you know

 

[Borachio]

Also add, I know that most probably many more people in the class have failed. But I also know that I could have passed. That's why I'm a waste. My potential it's there, but it won't show up.

This looks like academia overload to me. I'd guess you're perfectly capable but lack motivation, which, after how many years of studying? is probably understandable - unless you're a natural geek. Academic study is really over-rated, imo. How about just getting out there, find yourself some work to do and get on with your life?

Or take a year out and try again another time?

 

[sophie]

Being "friend zoned" is something that I don't want to have happen to me, should the day come when and if I'm dating.

I know its been taken to the PM, but I wonder what an unemployed person should do if they are dating and are in a position to pay. I know unemployed people should hold off dating, but sometimes the need for romantic contact just pops up .

Friendzoning is actually fairly easy to avoid. Again the mistake of getting friendzoned comes in the form of approaching a relationship as "I'll be friends with her, and romantic entanglement will arise from that". This is fundamentally the wrong way of going about things and usually develops because the male is too timid to act on his feelings and "being friends" is much easier for him to do. However if you don't establish to her early on that you are interested in her romantically then she's going to see you as just a friend, and won't really think of you in any way other than that.

The problem in "nerd" or "internet" culture is that this notion gets misconstrued as girls only liking jerks or having no interest in "nice guys". This isn't true. Girls love nice guys. They also love sensitive, intelligent, funny guys. But you could be the nicest guy in the world and if you don't make a move nothing is going to happen. Ever. Don't make the mistake of assuming the girl will understand your intentions or make the move for you. Some will, but a lot won't. You could be the most handsome, sweetest, funniest, best flirting, most charming man in the world but if you don't make a move then you're going to find yourself alone.

I would say about 85% of dating is confidence.

Umm yeah. As for paying for the meal/movie. As I said chivalry is dead. It's not expected, and some girls actually really don't like it if you do. You don't need to do it, but it's a really sweet gesture when you do. If you can't afford it, no big deal, she'll understand. Also there are a lot of great date ideas that don't require paying for stuff. A picnic or a hike (low stress hike; no Alp climbing), for example, can be a great first date idea, and if you pick your venue right it can be extremely romantic.

That was kind of rambly, but I hope I got the point across.

*Disclaimer* I realize some of these things sound vaguely sexist, and if it offends anybody I'm sorry. I know I'm heavily generalizing and women are people too (<- bad, wry joke), with very diverse interests, expectations, tendencies, etc. These are just my conclusions based on having been around the dating block a few times now, outside observations having watched friends try and fail spectacularly, and talking to girl-friends (not in the romantic sense) about dating ontologically from a female perspective. They don't necessarily represent any objective truths (if such a thing even exists) about women in general.

 

[The_J]

damn. Tried to make some photos of myself (purpose slightly related to the current main topic here), and the best facial expression which I can produce is a mixture of boredom, dullness and creepiness .

 

[JohannaK]

Sounds fun. I want to see them.

 

[sophie]

damn. Tried to make some photos of myself (purpose slightly related to the current main topic here), and the best facial expression which I can produce is a mixture of boredom, dullness and creepiness .

...Varwnos?

 

[aimeeandbeatles]

Rant: Less than 100 posts and I still not have figured out a plan to shut down the moderators.

 

[JohannaK]

Rant: I've known that my PoKéMoN Silver GBC cartrisge didn't save the game but... but Gen 2 best PoKéMoN Gen, and I just want it back. I NEED IT BACK!!!

 

[Takhisis]

That's everything I needed to hear. Now 4 zrz, ketchup is the worst thing I've ever tasted, and I intend not to come closer to it than it is strictly necessary for my sister to eat it. Because I can eat tomato, and it won't be too terrible, perhaps even onions although I have my doubts (I said that bread for me isn't a great thing, not that I hate it), but I'm telling you I will not bite a sandwich with ketchup. Never ever. And if I do I'll just vomit it.

Mr. K, we'll omit the ketchup, but the offer still stands. Alternatively, you can hand over your sister, and in exchange for her we can obtain a few cows and bread, to make mor ehamburgers with.

I find your lack of taste disturbing.

I sense a disturbance in the Force.

Everything is better with ketchup.

Not quite, but this is a good guideline to savouries.

Mein Gott! Vade retro, spawn of Satan!

You want to betray His Most Catholic Majesty and now invoke that which has planted the seed of treason in your mind?

EDIT: My taste is perfectly fine. there's a saying here that more or less says "There's nothing written about tastes". Buyt to be honest it's the texture that repulses me with onions and tomatoes. Although their taste ain't my favourite anyway. I will get again to the bread, because apparently I can't explain myself: I find it doesn't taste much by itself, and it forms something of a solid mass in your mouth when chewing it, that dries it and makes it difficult to swallow. Then it also depends on how the bread has been made (ingredients, proportions, shapes and cooking). I won't eat bread without oil (olive oil, what are you thinking, Diesel?) and a pinch of salt at least.

'Sobre gustos no hay nada escrito', dijo la vieja mientras se sorbía los mocos.

Ketchup? Oh man, since when did it stop being tomato sauce mate?

Ketchup is a type of tomato sauce.

Rant: Less than 100 posts and I still not have figured out a plan to shut down the moderators.

We can just kill them all.

 

[JohannaK]

Ketchup is evil. Period.

 

[NickyJ]

Rant: I'm in the middle of a complicated project, and most of it is due to being given incomplete instructions. And while I'm working on that project, people are asking clown questions. "No, I do not know whether I plan on paying future medical bills over the internet, damnit."

 

[Takhisis]

Ketchup is evil. Period.

In thy case it shall be replaced with mustard.

 

[Borachio]

Arggh. Mustard! Cruciferous pigeon bait!

 

[The_J]

Sounds fun. I want to see them.

Hell no ^^. Don't want to mix RL and forum stuff so far that I could be identified.
But I have to ask someone from RL before to tell me which is the least terrible one.

...Varwnos?

No, worse.
But the position is partially the same.

Rant: Less than 100 posts and I still not have figured out a plan to shut down the moderators.

Your plan is futile .

Rant: I'm in the middle of a complicated project, and most of it is due to being given incomplete instructions. And while I'm working on that project, people are asking clown questions. "No, I do not know whether I plan on paying future medical bills over the internet, damnit."

Hey, that's how RL will be later ^^.

 

[Takhisis]

Rantx: people insult ketchup, people insult mustard. Not good for exams.

/logs off

 

[Joecoolyo]

If its any consolation Takhisis, I still enjoy ketchup and mustard on a daily basis.

 

[salty mud]

God damn Harvard referencing.

 

[Synobun]

Everything has blown up in my face.

[size=-2]Not in the good way either. [/size]

 

[JohannaK]

Mustard is nearly as bad as ketchup.