Sexting

[Goodfella]

In order to add lively discussion in accordance with new proposals in the dead-ot thread, I offer the following topic to the masses:

Have you ever sent a dick pic? Was it to a girlfriend/boyfriend or was it on some sort of dating medium? If you're a woman or of another gender, have you ever sent a picture of your own reproductive organs or of other private parts? If the answer is yes to any of the above, what was the recipient's reaction? How did you prepare your private parts for these pictures? Would you ever include your face or anything that could be used to identify you? Do you think the pictures had a positive, negative, or neutral impact on your relationship or effort to acquire a sexual partner?

For me:
I haven't sent any and don't really plan on it. I have a friend who's received some through gay dating apps like Grindr. He seems to be okay with them as long as they're sent after a reasonable period of acquaintance with the sender. He's one of the only people I know who seriously uses dating apps of any sort (which is quite understandable given the proportion the population that's gay) so it's unclear to me whether this goes on a lot on apps like Tinder or other web-based dating mediums.

 

[Hygro]

<3 u Goodfella

I mean I've texted some bold play to girls before but only words and only as explicit as I thought I could get away with. I should up my dirty game. It works, if you set the right expectations.

 

[madviking]

i haven't had anything resembling a relationship since i got snapchat, so no.

 

[BvBPL]

My words are dirtier than any picture.

 

[gay_Aleks]

It seems appropriate only between intimate partners, and only if both sides agree on it. And to be fair, if they're intimate enough, they've seen their genitals plenty of times.

 

[Hygro]

Sometimes you just gotta flash a ho

 

[gay_Aleks]

Last time someone tried flashing a ho, he spent a week in jail and had to pay a hefty fine. Suffice to say, flashing ho's in public is something that is advised against.

 

[Bugfatty300]

Last time someone tried flashing a ho, he spent a week in jail and had to pay a hefty fine. Suffice to say, flashing ho's in public is something that is advised against.

Still worth it.

 

[Goodfella]

Guys, this thread is about sending pictures of your genitals, not exposing them in person. Let's stay on topic or I'll request that this thread be made into an RD.

 

[gay_Aleks]

You could start a loving relationship with a prisonmate, so who knows. Love always finds a way.

 

[Hygro]

No rly: it's important to learn to read people because people love when you do what they want before you ask. You gotta have consent for most things or its not cool through downright evil. But if you read someone right you know the gist of their boundaries, you can make a safe but bold play.

edit: yeah, talking about sexting. dont flash people in public, that's rude.

 

[Goodfella]

I agree. I think if I were ever in a relationship with someone and we sent each other pictures of our genitals, that'd actually be a sign of intimacy. I would probably never sext casually so for me it'd be a definite indicator of trust or passion.

 

[Bugfatty300]

I've never sent a pic of myself but I do receive them. The pics can be good revenge fodder if he/she ever cheats on you or the relationship goes sour. That's the reason why I'd personally never do it.

 

[gay_Aleks]

Probably due to the fact I'm raised in a different culture, but I find it odd that sending a picture of your genitals counts as a sign of intimacy. Even if it's sent with consent it still seems vulgar to me.

 

[Hygro]

Probably due to the fact I'm raised in a different culture, but I find it odd that sending a picture of your genitals counts as a sign of intimacy. Even if it's sent with consent it still seems vulgar to me.

Isn't vulgarity just literally people being too intimate where it's not wanted?

 

[The_J]

Old school dumb phone, I wouldn't know how to send or receive pics with it.

And I'm also with BvBPL. What I can say will probably freak you out more than anything I could show.

 

[Hygro]

Old school dumb phone, I wouldn't know how to send or receive pics with it.

And I'm also with BvBPL. What I can say will probably freak you out more than anything I could show.

I'm calling your bluff. What can you say that's still going to be received as sexting and is that much?

 

[Yeekim]

No.

As a rule of thumb, I don't take pictures of myself that I wouldn't like to see in a newspaper.

 

[downtown]

Yup, several years ago (I didn't even have a smart phone), I was in a serious, longterm relationship with somebody I would only see every few months. My gf and I would send pictures every once in a while, but I eventually stopped bc 1) I was terrified each time I would accidentally send one to the wrong number and 2) I was teaching elementary school at the time, and my kids were starting to steal my phone out of my desk, and I didn't want them finding any of the pictures.

I haven't done it in years, and I don't think I'd ever do it again. Too risky.

 

[Borachio]

I belong to a generation that thought photocopying one's backside was hilarious.

But no, I've never done sexting. I don't have a mobile phone that could, but I doubt I would anyway.

I had a girlfriend that liked to phone me up and talk "dirty" (for a brief period). Which was interesting. In a way. I couldn't think of anything much to say in reply though.