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I think this is a good example of what I'm talking about: did they say things about you or Catholics that are defamatory, like "Catholics are stupid," or were they attacking the Church as an institution, as in "The Holy See is an introverted, shriveled old man?" One is a personal attack, and one is not, though it might still be offensive to you because it's an assault upon something that you happen to think is legit. It would be a good exercise for us (not merely you, I'm simply using this as an Exhibit A) in this thread to try to dissociate the two, and thus determine the appropriate amount of hostility to return. I seem to remember you and I having a very heated argument about Lenin once. He is a man that I admire, but he is not me. So, much as it might upset me that you think he was a bad person, you weren't really saying I'm a bad person, at most you might be indirectly implying that I'm an ignorant supporter of someone who was bad, which is really a much smaller indictment that we might surrender unto opinion, don't you think?
Well, questioning if Lenin was a good person or not has little to do with established facts and more to do with one's already-held political and moral beliefs. So a contrary opinion on that is something I could strongly oppose (even venomously if this was 2010), but it's not something I find to be offensive and distasteful in and of itself. Contrary to this, there's just stupid myths that people repeat, perhaps maliciously. Formaldehyde claimed that Catholics caused the Holocaust; he denied that he said it, even while I was quoting his own post to him, and his defense was mainly accusing me of poisoning his character (though he did also quote some articles on the matter to get away from that, which I responded to in kind). I'm willing to forgive all of that with the promise that it doesn't happen again.