I think the difference is that suicide is still a choice.
Bullying also often leads to suicide - yet we do not treat bullies as murderers. Even though state bullying its citizens like this is certainly shameful.
If i go out of my way to make your life miserable by constantly calling you a pedophile or rapist, incite violence against you, urge you everyday to kill yourself, force you to live under the constant threat of physical violence, make everyone look.at you like you're a freak and generally do all i can to make it so that suicide is your only option for relief from the shame, stigma and discrimination then i am functionally committing a murder by any other means
I don't care much for your apologetics man
I've been:
1. Sexually abused as a result of being trans
2. Nearly killed as a result of being trans
3. Had my own humanity denied to me as a result of being trans, by way of repeated misgendering by people in positions of power and authority
4. Been told, by medical providers involved in trans healthcare, that I'm delusional and will never be a "true woman".
5. Told that i am an existential threat to cis women and children based upon being trans
6. Denied opportunities based upon being trans
7. Beaten, jumped, punched, had items thrown at me as a result if being trans
This is the horsehockey we have to deal with and the majority of it is either sanctioned by the government or the institutions designed to protect it turn a blind eye
I want common ground with you but you aren't giving me many options that don't involve denying my experiences and personhood