Ryika
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So this article was brought to my attention:
Sounds pretty cute so far. A couple that cares for each other, a household that seems to be able to get by with only one bread-winner. Of course the hags - some would call them feminists, but I do not find that label to be accurate - came out and had a few nasty responses ready for her:
....ohhhh boy. Now, I'm not a family person at all, but that attitude is really annoying, and I couldn't IMAGINE to ever think like that about my boyfriend. So I was getting a bit angry to be honest, but thankfully, the article made the bad feelings go away pretty quickly, because she knew very well how to defend herself:
People also joined in to defend her:
But yeah. I don't know if Maddie found new things she can make her husband for lunch, but it seems the story has a general happy ending. At least from my perspective.
So, what's your take?
- Is she in a loving relationship, or is she being abused by a husband who wants her to make all the sandwiches and is keeping her from having a career?
- Do the people who tell her that she should not make sandwiches for her husband have a point, or is it just a misguided interpretation of equality? Can these people even be in a loving relationship?
- Did she make life choices that you find reasonable, or should she not take the role of the support character while her husband gets all the experience out on the job market?
WHEN young Sydney mother Maddie asked her closed Facebook group of 26,186 mothers for some tasty alternatives to sandwiches for her husband’s lunches, she wasn’t expecting the backlash.
“I would love to hear what other mums make their hubbies for lunch and snacks throughout the work day,” she posted on Tuesday. “We are getting over sandwiches.”
Sounds pretty cute so far. A couple that cares for each other, a household that seems to be able to get by with only one bread-winner. Of course the hags - some would call them feminists, but I do not find that label to be accurate - came out and had a few nasty responses ready for her:
“Your husband is a grown up and you’re not his mother”, wrote one member of the North Shore Mums Facebook group.
“My husband can make his own damn lunch.”
“I make my husband the same thing he makes me. Nothing!!”
“Stuff that, hubby is a grown man. I already do his laundry and keep his children alive.”
“Our advice is to stop making his lunches.”
“My role is childcare during working hours and that’s it.”
“He’s lucky if I decide to make dinner some nights”.
“I was married for twenty years and my favourite packed lunch for my husband was called a Get it Yourself with a side order of I’m not your mother.”
“Nope, I didn’t sign up for that at the altar. But in the spirit of being helpful… pickled onion stuffed in mandarins.”
....ohhhh boy. Now, I'm not a family person at all, but that attitude is really annoying, and I couldn't IMAGINE to ever think like that about my boyfriend. So I was getting a bit angry to be honest, but thankfully, the article made the bad feelings go away pretty quickly, because she knew very well how to defend herself:
Sounds like her husband is indeed a champ - and she's one, too! I'm so glad to see a loving relationship of two people who work as a unit and want to build something great together.On Wednesday, Maddie, 22, switched off comments, but not before page administrators deleted the nastiest.
“I’m actually so devastated about some of these comments,” wrote Maddie.
She and her husband are saving up to buy their first home and, “he works in an extremely physically demanding job, he does housework, he cooks dinner every second night... He gets up in the middle of the night with our Bub. He is a champion.
“The least I can do is make him a bloody sandwich. I love my man, he deserves to eat lunch and we can’t afford to eat out.”
People also joined in to defend her:
Now THOSE are some actual feminists if you asked me.How did making a sandwich become a crime against women? Thankfully, for everything bad about social media there is an antidote, and an army of mums sprang to Maddie’s defence.
“Is it really a massive issue if Maddie wants to make her husband lunch?!?”
“Wow, so much hostility here... Surely nice actions like these get reciprocated in happy marriages.”
“Good on you! My husband is a builder, and his job is so physical, and he is so hands on at home! It’s the least I can do.”
“I never know why these posts always turn into a husband bashing.”
“I think it’s pretty crappy to assume someone is a slave or 1950s housewife for making lunch. Feminism is about choice.”
“All I can say is some women really must resent their husbands by their responses. Looking after your partner is the way to a happy marriage.”
“I’m so confused by the negativity on this post. I love making my hubby lunch… He does so much for us as a family and for my girls I see nothing wrong with wanting to look after your husband!!”
“If I can help in some small part to make his day easier, I will. His hours are ridiculous and if me doing this means he gets to hang out with our son more I am all for it!”
“He does so much for me and the kids. Making two sandwiches a day doesn’t put us in the dark ages.”
“Marriage is a partnership. If only more think like that there will be a lot less divorces in this world.”
But yeah. I don't know if Maddie found new things she can make her husband for lunch, but it seems the story has a general happy ending. At least from my perspective.
So, what's your take?
- Is she in a loving relationship, or is she being abused by a husband who wants her to make all the sandwiches and is keeping her from having a career?
- Do the people who tell her that she should not make sandwiches for her husband have a point, or is it just a misguided interpretation of equality? Can these people even be in a loving relationship?
- Did she make life choices that you find reasonable, or should she not take the role of the support character while her husband gets all the experience out on the job market?