Random Rants 61

[Kennigit]

i haven't been to like any of the 3 bars here that would be active friday nights, so I have a tough time suggesting "X place is good, how about friday night"

One of those that didn't pan out I might have suggest friday, I forget. Something naturally along the lines of <suggest place for later evening drink--like 930> to "i've never been to X" to "oh actually I haven't either, good excuse to try something new" to "OK" into cancel during the day [I in no way place any fault on that person, plus they actually were proactive in keeping communication and such, but like after a couple failed attempts I slacked on my end]

weekdays the two coffee places I like close at 6 and I am gone at work from 0530 - 6 pm. Though a third coffee place I just went to is open to like 9 I think so that may be my suggestion [actually literally pulled same thing as the above but with success--I never tried it and I just tried it with somebody]. I also would do starbucks just fine but I want to appear not TOO boring. I can't lead on too early that I have no creativity in social activities.

but the very first meetup went great in my mind and also the girl was well receptive to that coffee house, said she never heard of it and really liked it and would be going back. And then never responded to me lol. So I'm going to keep trying to suggest that place

 

[sophie]

Try post-work dinner?

I find mid-week dinner has the most success. Also that way if things go well you can easily slot that into a date #2 on Saturday or Sunday

 

[Hygro]

"Drinks tonight at X?"
"I've never been to X"
"It's [insert word you want her to feel about it]"

The alternative is you lead with it
"I want to check out X. Let's meet [there (or other rendezvous)]"
"Have my babies"


Women as a rule of thumb never want the ball in their court.

edit: necessary caveat, when I'm describing "women" in such black and white terms I'm talking about a specific gender construct that people who trend female generally conform to, to varying degrees etc.

 

[Kennigit]

there are things i can try but there is only so much you can try when you have like 1 chance a month.

actually i guess I've tried messaging people semi effectively since april so less than 1 a month [not saying I am proactive or do a good job or anything]

I dream of having just one "I like <the one coffee place>, how does <friday time, perhaps based on what they've said if it came up like if they work nights>" and having it actually occur on the first suggestion or within reasonable easy discussion

that literally is my dream for tinder or okcupid. the ones I did meet with went through an [albeit obviously fine] short cycle of finagling

edit: TIL finagling means "devious". um I mean more a cycle of "soft maybes".

edit2: dream in the sarcastic sense, but some truth. Like I said, it's so much "pulling teeth"

 

[Hygro]

If its your dream don't let anyone stop you.

I think owen's midweek dinner plan might give you a higher success rate though.

 

[Phrossack]

I've had dating issues similar to GoodEnoughForMe and Kennigit. Messaged a bunch of girls on a site, very few responses. One time I had a nice conversation going for a few days, with everything going well, and then I suggested we go out for dinner. She happily agreed, but the date fell through because we couldn't find each other at the station. She apologized a lot the day after through her computer and said her phone had broken on the way there, and then had to leave for three weeks for job training, but she was up for trying again once she got back. Well over a month has passed, maybe two, and no response, though she still goes online every now and then. I wonder if she was lying about the phone breaking and just decided she couldn't do a date and didn't tell me, but she seemed sincere in her apologies. Oh, well. If she's this uninterested or forgetful, trying to go on a date is pretty much not worth it, anyway.

Very few others bother replying, and it seems to me that most women rarely if ever take the initiative by starting a conversation or asking the guy out--unless it's just me they don't start conversations with. By this point, I've realized that, though I'm probably decent-looking, I have little to offer anyone or have some other thing about me that repels people, so I've pretty much given up and have decided to focus on other things in my life. Oddly enough, this doesn't really bother me anymore. I've largely lost the ability to give (feces) about things these days, but not in a depressed and nihilistic way. Just a calm and detached way. If I could just get hired, I'd be pretty much fine.

 

[azzaman333]

out of booze, its only 2am and i only have a light buzz. how the **** am i supposed to drink my problems away without drink to drink

 

[NovaKart]

You should plan ahead for these things.

 

[Commodore]

First world problem rant incoming: I can't get my Xbox 360 to display in 1080p with my HDMI cable. The option is there, but it's greyed out and the highest resolution it will let me select is 1360x768. Here's why this has me so frustrated: I used to be able to display my 360 in 1080p with this same exact HDMI cable that I am using now (I've been using the same one for years. However, a while back I started using standard HD cables for my 360 for convenience reasons (it was one of those splitter cables that allowed multiple consoles to be connected to the same set of HD cables). Well, now I'm switching back to using HDMI and all of a sudden I can't select the 1080p display option anymore. I also can't seem to find anything online that might help me with this problem. Everything I read just says if I have an HDMI cable I should be able to select the 1080p option.

I hate technology sometimes.

 

[Wolfbeckett]

I did some dumbbell exercises earlier this week for the first time in a long while and I think I definitely overdid it. That was on Monday and my arms are still sore and stiff today. Ow, ow, ow.

 

[The_J]

Talked today to the Spanish girl I'm interested in. Since she forgot last week to go to the Salsa lessons, I offered her to remind her via email.
[...]Or: I remind her, she still forgets (well...), then I can ask for some time at the weekend (because I'm not here next week).
let's see.

-> bah, now I have to do that via email.
Really not my preferred option, since it hasn't worked too well yet...but if it's the only option...

Failed. Great.
And this year is nearly over :/.

 

[Lohrenswald]

I got glasses today.

Time to not use them.

 

[Arakhor]

I got glasses today.
Time to not use them.

I imagine that is because you have a natural inclination towards slight short-sightedness, which was exacerbated by overuse of computer screens.

 

[Lohrenswald]

I imagine that is because you have a natural inclination towards slight short-sightedness, which was exacerbated by overuse of computer screens.

yea

 

[Arakhor]

Well, as you get older, chances are that your prescription will increase, so I'd suggest getting used to it now whilst you're still young and vibrant.

 

[GoodEnoughForMe]

People still assume that those who wear glasses are intelligent, so there's that going for you if you wear them.

 

[JohannaK]

Funny thing how my prescription hasn't increased in ... 5 years? 6? I can't tell. And I'm 21, it should have. I'm glad it didn't, though.

 

[Lohrenswald]

People still assume that those who wear glasses are intelligent, so there's that going for you if you wear them.

That train is gone at this point

 

[GoodEnoughForMe]

Yeah, I'm 26 and I go ever 3-4 years, and for three appointments in a row my eyesight has actually gotten better, so weird.

Anyways my rant is that my car breaks are squeaking very loudly and I don't want any expensive car maintenance.

That train is gone at this point

Same.

 

[Arakhor]

I did say "chances are", but I am also older than you lot.