I told her that I'm happy where I am, it's sufficiently disabled-accessible for someone in my situation (no stairs, no elevator to worry about as I'm on the ground floor), the current manager and maintenance staff treat me very well (it helps that I don't make trouble and help out neighbors and staff when possible, and I point out things that go unnoticed by the able-bodied tenants but are hazards for those of us there in wheelchairs or who use walkers (thus possibly saving the company a lot of $$$$$$$ if someone gets injured and opts for legal action), and I absolutely do not want to go into assisted living. She said there are places for younger adults (ie. in my general age group), but that's no guarantee that it wouldn't be as institutionalized as facilities for seniors.She's being insensitive to the point of rudeness. I don't know how assisted living facilities are in Canada, but don't discard them (or the hospital) because of the nurse.
It took a lot for me to insist on making my own decisions years ago, and I'm not giving that up unless I truly can't look after myself anymore.
I just tell them outright when they make me frustrated (for whatever reason). It's an allowable emotion.Just allow for her being overly (and insultingly ) helpful. One of the worse things to do while in hospital is to get into fights with the staff.
One other thing that angers me about that suggestion is that she's oblivious to the fact that people receiving the disability benefit I do just can't afford assisted living. Even just the rent is several hundred to a thousand over what I get each month.
And having to give up Maddy? No.
I haven't seen her since then. I don't know if she's on a different shift or if word got back to her that I was displeased with how she treated me (talking down, talking at, while simultaneously throwing terms at me that I haven't heard since my last biology class 40 years ago and then talking to me like I was 4.This is bad advice.
She did nothing reportable. It's not against the rules to make unhelpful, thoughtless suggestions/opinions in a rude, pushy way.Thanks for spotting it. I'd better clarify, since I was having trouble with the post (page clogged).
‘Allow’ in the sense of ‘not letting her get to you’. I was about to add the suggestion that you report her, because she is neglecting her duty.
It's like the situation I was in 11 years ago, when the social worker wanted to stick me in some little place with a couple of bags of belongings, no cats, and the clothes on my back. I told her NO. My body may not function too well anymore, but I'm still of sound (if grouchy) mind, so they have no basis to force me anywhere I don't want to go. Some people in the "caring professions" (the term used for medical and social work fields) are genuinely helpful but others just want to decide everything for the patient/client and steamroll right over that person's own wishes. How dare the patient/client voice any preferences or put their foot down when the worker gets too dictatorial or crosses the line in other ways (that social worker would drive past my house on a Saturday to see if one of her colleagues was visiting me; we'd found that we'd gone to the same school and wanted to spend some time just visiting to catch up on people we'd known 30 years previously - and when I found out that my visitors were being monitored, I just blew up at her and said that who I invited into my home was MY business, not hers, and that her colleague was keeping business and personal stuff separated to my satisfaction).
An odd thing happened with that social worker... several months later she asked if I'd come down to one of the outreach places and help out, teaching some of the clients how to use computers/email. I thought about it, and decided that if anyone else had asked, I'd have said yes. But since she had been so determined to dictate my life to me and demand that I give up my last remaining family living with me, I figured she could find someone else.