Random Rants LIII: F My Life

[H4run]

I can't believe my mom. The first serious relationship that has lasted more than a month which will be about 5 months by the time I wanted to introduce her to my folks and she won't meet her. My dad was excited but my mom told him she didn't want to because my girlfriend is black.

This is the exact same situation my mom went through with my dad's parents too. At the least, when she first met my grandma, her and my dad were already married which is far from the case with me and my girlfriend. My grandpa was nervous about my mom but grew to love her like a daughter but my grandma never warmed up to her until she was dying of dementia. Not to mention my dad has more of a reason to be suspicious of blacks in general, if there ever is a reason, since he left the US just as the Civil Rights movement was starting to turn some heads yet even he's willing to put aside his prejudices. He already heard glowing reviews from my sister and her husband so that helped, but still.

For those who don't know, my mom has a list of races she doesn't like. When I first found out about it, the races on her list were Japanese (war time atrocities), Indians and Filipinos (personal bad experiences with them) and blacks and Hispanics (she sees them as gangbangers from TV and Fox News). However now Japanese are off her list. Hispanics are off her list because she now perceives them as hard working and industrious and Filipinos are sort of on probation on good behavior since she's having a good experience with a family now.

But still on her list are Indians and blacks. Her reason for blacks is that she thinks they all have a family member in jail. That maybe somewhat true for my girlfriend's sister's boyfriends, but they're both white so I don't think that even counts on multiple levels. Plus, my mom even told me that one of my uncles was a political prisoner during the communist purges in Indonesia.

I'm thinking of bringing her down to Portland anyway. We'll enjoy wandering the city anyway and hanging out with my sister and her husband and I'll leave my girlfriend with them so I can pop in and say hi to my folks. Heck I'll probably have my dad come meet Stacie over breakfast so my mom doesn't have to see her.

maybe your mom will warm up and change her mind when you and your gf married and have a baby or something. Grandma love their grand children.

 

[Loppan Torkel]

Just to put your little issues in some perspective

Link to video.

 

[The_J]

I've now been trying for 1.5 - 2 weeks to prepare material, which is not worth 1 hour for demonstration purposes, and doesn't replicate the results from the related publication.
[...]

At least the poster for the conference is ready. Hope that one will get accepted. (not that it's my poster, I'm only in the middle...because I didn't have really any material to put on...that's slightly related to the rant above)

gngngn....the data is wrong.
The bloody data is wrong.
No wonder that I couldn't reproduce anything.
At least I'm now not stupid.
Not totally at least.
But everyone will think so, because we're going to give that damn course with the wrong data, because there's no more time to fix it.
Crap.
And if we don't get it fixed for the bloody poster, then I'll be the first person to have committed scientific fraud without ever having published something.
Life is crap right now.

 

[Mango Elephant]

@west india man: You don't want a girl which makes out with an undefined amount of people per night, do you?

Oh, I really don't think he would mind her promiscuity. The biological reason humans enjoy making out is that the exchange of saliva also exchanges bacteria and therefore makes us more resistant towards disease. Making out with the girl in WiM's story would be like taking a megavitamin.

 

[Takhisis]

It's the only way I've been able to keep up and stay in contact with my old friends.

That should be remedied.

 

[Farm Boy]

Oh, I really don't think he would mind her promiscuity. The biological reason humans enjoy making out is that the exchange of saliva also exchanges bacteria and therefore makes us more resistant towards disease. Making out with the girl in WiM's story would be like taking a megavitamin.

I'm not sold on this theory. I might buy smooches and kisses being a expression of this. Maybe. But "making out" in the modern sense? Tends to be a sexual expression. Tends to be desired because of sexual attraction with members of the desired gender. I'm more inclined towards the theory that prolonged opened-mouth kissing is pleasurable because it's an attempt for males to share testosterone with females, thus increasing their sex drive and inclination to mate.

 

[Takhisis]

Well, we should certainly conduct a few experiments.

 

[madviking]

rant: the selfie song

 

[Takhisis]

Go listen to Lynyrd Skynyrd, they're singing my troubles away.

 

[GamezRule]

I seriously need to improve my work ethic, my leadership abilities, and my public speaking abilities.

 

[Kennigit]

man it'll be great when I live on my own (no roommates)

I swear like 75% of our kitchen stuff disappeared overnight (or has gradually decreased overtime, last 2 months or so)

tupperware/plastic storage for leftovers? From like 5 of them to 1. can openers? From like 3 to 0 (seriously where are they, no one takes can openers around). Some pots? ~5 to 3 (though this one I think we just had some that a friend left over the summer and he eventually took them back). Some dinner knifes? From literally ~10000 of them to some unknown amount where they seem to all be gone or <5 [we had like 4.5 sets of silverware accrued over the years).

same with general cleanliness of the apartment, etc. I don't really care all too much if things disappear into a void or if things are pretty untidy in common spaces, but gosh darnit it's just infinitely better when you know everything is 100% your mess or your responsibility to clean or your fault that it disappeared into thin air.

edit: actually, this really should be a rave because it's only ~1 month until I will never have to put up with this stuff ever again in my life, until maybe I am some old geezer in a retirement home (at which point I probably wouldn't bother to cook much for myself, assuming some communal kitchen set up, but meals can be provided too)

 

[Phrossack]

man it'll be great when I live on my own (no roommates)

I swear like 75% of our kitchen stuff disappeared overnight (or has gradually decreased overtime, last 2 months or so)

tupperware/plastic storage for leftovers? From like 5 of them to 1. can openers? From like 3 to 0 (seriously where are they, no one takes can openers around). Some pots? ~5 to 3 (though this one I think we just had some that a friend left over the summer and he eventually took them back). Some dinner knifes? From literally ~10000 of them to some unknown amount where they seem to all be gone or <5 [we had like 4.5 sets of silverware accrued over the years).

same with general cleanliness of the apartment, etc. I don't really care all too much if things disappear into a void or if things are pretty untidy in common spaces, but gosh darnit it's just infinitely better when you know everything is 100% your mess or your responsibility to clean or your fault that it disappeared into thin air.

edit: actually, this really should be a rave because it's only ~1 month until I will never have to put up with this stuff ever again in my life, until maybe I am some old geezer in a retirement home (at which point I probably wouldn't bother to cook much for myself, assuming some communal kitchen set up, but meals can be provided too)

"Forget" a small, open container of spoiled milk in some concealed spot in your most troublesome roomate's room.

 

[JohannaK]

Woke up, my shoulders were killing me. I'm in drama mode, so I don't know if I will be able even to carry my backpack.

 

[Farm Boy]

Well, we should certainly conduct a few experiments.

I'm flattered, but I don't think my wife would be cool with us making out Tak.

 

[Takhisis]

What? I wasn't interested in me making out with you&#8230; and all those accusations of voyeurism are lies, lies I say.

 

[Zack]

I guess we're not switching avatars this year?

 

[Farm Boy]

You'd be the first to know if we were I think, that sexy shmexy man staring into my soul over on the left side of the screen.

 

[madviking]

i remembered that that was a thing during my drunken stupor on saturday. but then i promptly reforgot.

 

[Zack]

You'd be the first to know if we were I think, that sexy shmexy man staring into my soul over on the left side of the screen.

"Zack, can I have your avatar?"

"As you wish."

 

[The_J]

*ugh* turned out that half of the course participants do not have the abilities which we'd require for our hands on.
-> made some stuff up this evening.
8 hours course, 1 hour Dutch course, 3 hours course preparations + 3 hours travelling (1.5 each).
Good this day is over.