Oh, the solitude of parties. You've used up nothing. I with I had words of encouragement but I'm braindead right now.
Thank you. I don't know why they are so lonely to be at. Maybe it's watching everyone else have fun and talk with one another while I get ignored.
I don't want to trivialize what you're going through right now, nor do I have any perspective on your issues specifically, but in my experience, party conversations are extremely hit-or-miss almost regardless of the people that are there, and frankly, two conversations out of five hours isn't half bad, especially if the food and drink are good.
Conversation was a bit generous. It was more me explaining my job (the same stuff I've repeated to everyone for the past month) before they decided to move onto someone more exciting. So like fifteen minutes of any sort of interaction.
But maybe that's the norm, I don't know. Seemed like everyone else there was having much more of a blast than I was.
In my experience, parties suck as places to have meaningful social interactions, especially if there is a lot of music and dancing and if there are a lot of uninteresting normal people there. Occasionally I manage to break through the wall of small talk and have interesting conversations, but it's much more the exception than the rule. The rule is standing around awkwardly and drinking, but not really breaking through to good times at any amount of alcohol unless the universe's random number generator is feeling generous.
I guess it's good to know that this isn't completely out of the ordinary, since I don't often go to parties. Still a bummer having to watch everyone else enjoy themselves, and fear that I'm ruining things by being there.
In my experience, you have to keep trying to get out and socialise. Sometimes it will backfire and the whole thing will just suck, and a lot of the time you'll feel like crap after it. But isolating yourself just leads to a downward spiral where you're pretty much always guaranteed to feel like crap because you're alone and you had the opportunity not to be, and you can't blame anyone but yourself for it.
Don't give up. Keep going out, keep posting, keep interacting, you're going to connect, you just have to keep making the effort, even when it does not seem to be producing any results.
It's just so hard when it feels like people don't want you to be there. They try and actively avoid you for better people to be around. To actually get people to go out, or even invite me to things seems like a struggle.
The effort just seems so draining. I haven't felt nearly as low as I did after I came home from that party. It actually scared me.
But then again, being alone at home is also draining. This seems like a series of bad things all coalescing on one another at the worst time, every route out is horrible.
Joe - you're a really cool, sociable guy. I thoroughly enjoyed hanging out with you brah. I think everyone above hit the nail on the head wrt to parties. Oh and if your friend still ignores you (which is what I took to mean he didn't change after you talked to him) then you need a new friend. Easier said than done but still.
Thank you. He just seems oblivious to it, even after I explained it to him. It makes me jealous, I think. He continues on like nothing, happy and active while I sit and think about all the things not occurring. That jealousy for some reason is preventing me from just moving on. I can't accept that his happiness only feeds my bitterness.
Is this too weird?
thank goodness the article included a decent number of quotes from the actual archaeologists and historians involved in the research, and from individuals in the field
