Describe your social group!

[Goodfella]

What's your social group like? Are they mainly people like yourself? Is it a mixture of different races, sexualities, religions, or genders? Do they do the same work as you or study the same fields? How large is it? Do you think you have a close knit circle?

Me: I only really have around seven or eight friends that I regularly hangout with and they're mostly white college students like myself. A few of them are girls, gay, jewish or a combination of those which may add diversity points but we mostly just look like a generic group of white people. A few of us are in engineering or computer science, a few in liberal arts and we're mostly atheists with pretty typical college liberal political views.

 

[JollyRoger]

I am a lone wolf rotating in women in groups of 2 to 3.

 

[gay_Aleks]

I immediately saw this and thought "what, like CFC Social Groups?". That probably should tell you all that there is to it.

 

[MjM]

I hang out almost exclusively with people I work with. All different races, ages, genders. Pretty diverse group of people. I've learned a lot.

 

[madviking]

What's your social group like?

varied

Are they mainly people like yourself?

yes and no.

Is it a mixture of different races, sexualities, religions, or genders?

race: check
sexuality: no check
religion: almost all of my friends are catholic so no
gender: eh

Do they do the same work as you or study the same fields?

nope

How large is it?

depends on how talkative i feel like being. there are a few people that i want to get back in touch with, mainly high school friends.

Do you think you have a close knit circle?

outside my roommate for three years and a smattering of high school friends, yes, but i have a few nebulous friends that, as previously mentioned, i haven't done the best job in keeping contact with them.

 

[Timsup2nothin]

My social group has disconnected lobes.

I hang out with one of my sons and his friends for hiking excursions, sometimes karaoke. They are all younger than me, but a lot of them are older than he is and he's only twenty years younger than I am so that's a ??? thirty to 55 group, I guess? Mixed genders and races.

I also hang out with my mom and the staff of the care home she is in...sometimes while they are working (my mom is with us) and sometimes when they aren't working (mom not with us) we go out together or meet for lunch. They are from the Philippines and are an extended family stretching over three generations. My son visits his grandmother now and then, but doesn't interact much with the staff, so there is no real contact between these groups.

I hang out a good bit with my gf's neighbors while she is at work. Just sharing "let's stand and gab rather than working in the yard or house like we planned" time. Another diverse group with no contact with the other groups.

Then there are my former and future client/benefactors. I keep in touch, occasionally do an odd job here or there for cash, occasionally visit for a coffee or tea chat session. These are people who at one time or another traded shelter for work and might do so again if my gf ever gets tired of me. Another very diverse group, though it is over represented in the single women category. This group also includes people who were clients of my last business before I retired from it who have kept in touch. Again it has no contact other than me with the other groups.

 

[Narz]

I had a few separate groups I roll with... well, not really in a group, usually with one or two at a time. I don't have any super close friends at the moment (besides my baby mama) & haven't in years. I have around five or six folks I have some affection for who also have some affection for me.

Hoping to make some more solid connections this summer, its one of my goals for the summer actually.

Race - don't care
Sexualities - don't care (unless its a sexually attractive woman then I hope she likes men, specifically me)
Gender - female preferred becuz I like the possibility of sex but being a decent, fun, positive human being moving in a good direction is the most important thing
Religion - Prefer non-religious or at the very least don't-ask/don't-tell. Reality is far too interesting & life far too short to hang out with people who waste brainspace living in a delusion

I really, really want to develop a "close knit circle" as you say but its very hard to do. I am quite social (especially for a NYer) but am a bit resistant to get very close to people. I don't want to be beholden to anyone, I don't want to take on serious responsibility for them.

The problem with lacking a tight social group is (IMO) that you attract other people who've also drifted thru life without a tight social group & they either tend to be aloof/hard to connect with or needy, usually a combination of the two which is the worst.

I'm trying to be patient & develop myself, my interests, business connections, etc. You can't force a connection or force your way into a group. I do try to force myself to go out to gatherings/groups/social events at least once or twice a week. It is much easier to simply go online & post here or scan Facebook (and I allow myself to do this an hour or two a day because its somewhat soothing) but I know if I go weeks without going out to social events my life will suffer for it (also whats the point in my living in a large metropolitan area if I'm gonna spend most of my life staring at a computer screen?).

 

[Kennigit]

none.

I have a small circle of friends (5-7) from university that I continue to do stuff online with. Mixed races, heterosexual men, non-religious, >4/5ths of their lives spent in the USA, and all have or nearly have undergraduate engineering degrees.

While at university there were some homosexual men I hung out with, but I have not kept up with them. As well as people I shared academic classes with that I was friendly to, but rarely spent social time with until the end of university. A couple females.

I do go running some with some running clubs where the ages are 30-45, for the most part. That is mixed gender, but for the most part I show up and converse for a few minutes and then never really interact with them.

ninja-edit:

my circle is close enough. I've known them for a few years.

I also don't set forth to only make friends or acquaintances only with those in the STEM fields. I just only meet STEM people. This even includes most of the runners in the running club I attend.

 

[Tahuti]

What's your social group like? Are they mainly people like yourself? Is it a mixture of different races, sexualities, religions, or genders? Do they do the same work as you or study the same fields? How large is it? Do you think you have a close knit circle?

Virtually all of them are white. Some are gay. Mostly atheists, but with some Jews and New Age types. Roughly half works in the same field as I do, though all other either work at museums, nightclubs or financial institutions. Roughly 10 people. Not significantly closely knit, you might say I'm actually part of several social groups.

 

[Borachio]

My current "best" friend is 87 (26 years older than I am). She's rather good fun. In a cranky elderly kind of way.

My lodger is 67, and a rather neurotic woman with some very peculiar ideas and chronic fatigue syndrome. And she doesn't do anywhere near enough housework. AND today I found some leftover tuna in the fridge that had gone blue with mold!!!!

My other "best" friend is 64 (I think), and all she does when I take her out to dinner is moan about her brother, her sons, and her "daughter-in-law". Mainly the latter. But she's a good friend who I used to work with 18 years ago. I've got to go and see her tomorrow and listen to the saga of the broken arm. Again.

 

[Truthy]

I'm part of one pretty close knit group consisting of around 5 people and then I have several other friends who aren't part of the first group. I also have a series of acquaintances (acquaintance = person I talk to and hang out with but am not quite friends with). The acquaintances are hall mates, classmates, friends of friends, or people I know from clubs.

Friend demographics:

Race - mostly white and asian, but also two hispanics

Sexualities - mixture of straight, bi, and gay/lesbian (~30% non-straight)

Gender - surprisingly high number of females, considering that all of my high school friends were male (~50% female)

Religion - pretty much all atheists as far as I know

Majors - I'm only friends with like two other engineering students. Most of my friends are physics or computer science and the ones in computer science are in the college of arts and sciences, not the engineering school. My closest friend is in commerce. Engineering students are generally kind of boring and lack a broad range of interests. For instance, it's kind of hard to find engineering students who care about history and politics, which are subjects I like. I mean I have a bunch of acquaintances in engineering, but most of these people aren't really my friends.

 

[The_J]

At the moment I mainly hang out with a rather loose circle of ~25 people from our university department (Bio-*), so all either M.sc. students, Ph.D. students, or postdocs.

Race/Nationality: is mixed, majority from all over europe, but some latin/indian/asian in there too.
Sexuality: Gay/Lesbian are present, but only a few people.
Gender: 1/3 women, I'd guess right now.
Religion: I think nobody is religious.
Age range: Begins at 22, ends at 35, with sometimes 1 outlier, who's a bit older.

If you don't consider the race/nationality part, then the group is rather homogenous.
We mainly hang out because we party together/spend Friday/Saturday evenings together.
Interests are divers there, many people do some kinds of sports, do travelling, are interested in science and technology, some are a bit into culture. Main topics are still Game of Thrones and any kind of sex/relationship/internal gossip .

 

[CELTICEMPIRE]

I'm counting good friends and not mere acquaintances. My friends group would be at least 20 people, at most 40.

Race: mostly white with some African-Americans and Hispanics (minorities make up less than 5% of the county I live in) I know very few Asians.
Sexuality: 100% heterosexual, unless some are closeted.
Gender: Probably 60-70% male.
Religion: Almost entirely Christian of some sort. My friends from school are mostly Protestant, my friends from work are mostly Catholic. I know a few Mormons from each place. I have a Jewish friend and a Buddhist friend as well.
Age Range: 17-25 (I'm 19)
Majors: Almost entirely Mathematical or Scientific, While I'm a History major. I don't feel very smart around them, unless the subject is history.
Nationalities: Most of my foreign friends have moved back to their respective countries. But I've noticed that people from foreign countries like me a lot.

 

[Joecoolyo]

Small-ish, it contracts when I go off to college and expands when I come back home to Chicago.

It's mostly just straight white people, though one or two might be gay. Religion is mixed, about half Jewish, half not. Gender all male (my friend group is my group from high school, and we were never good about that sort of thing). Race has gotten less diverse, basically all white people now. We were friends with a lot more Asians in high school, but we've fallen out of contact with most of them. Some still stick around and they're still cool.

Our fields are pretty diverse though. There were only two history majors up until this year, when one of my closest friends made the switch. Other people are doing econ, engineering, or generic stuff. Politically we're actually diverse as well, though I try to steer away from politics since it makes me unhappy.

But for the most part, its 4-5 friends I stay in contact with over the internet when I'm at college, and maybe 10-15 when I come back home. Small, low diversity, and basically the same.