ComradeDavo
Formerly God
Never.
You can't tell what the future will bring.
You can't tell what the future will bring.
If it was illegal to seperate and divorce your spouse, would you ever get married?
- Thread starter Eukaryote
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That doesn't make it less true.
Don't underestimate how stogy society is. My status went way, way up among people who're older than me, just by getting married. I was honestly stunned, because my peers didn't care either way.
no, I wouldn't get married. Even now, I'll only get married for tax and bureaucratic reasons, it doesn't mean anything to me.
There's just no point in it for me
(though, that's of course something everybody has to decide for him/herself)
There's just no point in it for me
(though, that's of course something everybody has to decide for him/herself)
I might have, way back when, and if I had I'd be completely screwed right now with a wife that insists on spending beyond our means. Then again, she had two marriages prior to ours, so I suppose she wouldn't have been available in the first place. 
azzaman333
meh
If I had a relationship with a female that I felt was strong enough to marry her, I highly doubt divorce would ever cross my mind.
classical_hero
In whom I trust
Heck yes. Course, I always intended for my marriage to end in death.
My thoughts exactly, except for the murder part.
Marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment. It is not something that we should just say that that we did not get along, thus we should get a divorce. I hate how people can get a divorce over "irreconcilable differenced". That has to be the lamest excuse for getting a divorce ever.My thoughts exactly, except for the murder part.
Slightly different viewpoint here. I think that eventually a couple can have irreconcilable differences. But that's indicitive of a problem itself - the couple not investing into the relations that which is required. :shrug: You're going to grow apart, and you're going to grow into different directions. The trick is to keep growing together as well. It ain't easy, that's for sure.
I'm not going to look down on anyone who do decides to get a divorce, because I understand that other people have different vaules and morals than I do. And that's fine, I can live with that. Also, I wouldn't be here if there was such a law...
Anyways, marriage isn't easy. It's not a picnic. I think a lot of younger people go into it thinking it won't be that hard. I know I did. And I'm glad that both my wife and I cared enough for our relationship to actually try and fix it, instead of taking the easy way out.
Cheezy the Wiz
Socialist In A Hurry
That doesn't mean that marriages have half a chance of failing, it means that half the people that get married are doing something wrong, whether it's getting married too fast, for the wrong reasons, I don't know, probably all of the above and then some, but just because half of American marriages end in divorce does not mean that every marriage is a 50/50 coin flip.
Ayatollah So
the spoof'll set you free
Y'know, there's really not that much consequence in the scenario, if you really think about it. I mean, there's no legal consequences for living separately from your spouse, or for sleeping around while being married, to take two examples. So you can't get officially divorced - big deal.
Anyway, even if those laws were about to be changed too, so as to give this thing real teeth, that wouldn't make me want to back out of my marriage while it was still allowed.
Anyway, even if those laws were about to be changed too, so as to give this thing real teeth, that wouldn't make me want to back out of my marriage while it was still allowed.
CartesianFart
Deity
"Institutionalizing relationship" will only bring out the madness in you and stifle your growth to be an individual!
On the contrary - if you're still married, you still have joint property (in most states anyway) and joint debts. I had a very unpleasant experience extricating my finances from my ex-wife's - at one point being told by a credit card company that they would not remove my name from the joint account, and that even if I closed the account, my ex-wife could re-open it and continue using it for purchasing items without them even notifying me. I managed to clear that up and separate accounts just before she declared bankruptcy.
Eukaryote
Deity
I say most of the reason most marrages end is because the couple isn't speaking the right love languge.
Mirc
Not mIRC!!!
Eukaryote
Deity
Are you serious?
Youu have no idea what I'm talking about do you? The concept of love languges explains that there are 5 different basic ways to express love, each one is understood by different people to a different degree. So many marrages probably end because neither of them feel loved because they aren't using the one or two love languges their lover understands the most. Simple eh? A guy named Gary Champman wrote a book about it if you want more info, or you could google "five love languges," cause there's probably a website.
classical_hero
In whom I trust
My point is that if people did not take marriage so lightly, then people would not rush into it. Since most people rush into it they do not actually realise the demands that a marriage actually took. IF we actually taught what marriage was about, then we would not be seeing so much divorce, but it seems that people just want the easy way out, without putting much effort into anything, and then they wonder why things did not go as they planned them to go.
Abaddon
Deity
pretty much like is was a while ago.. an everyone still got married then...
I don't plan on marrying anyway, but I don't think I would in this case, even if I was in love. I don't think the institution being set up by the government in this case would be a real marriage, because you can't leave if your spouse is unfaithful. (That should be a option, if not a recommended one) In that case, I wouldn't have a problem with people changing their names and living together, and acting and saying that they're married, just without the legal support. (Actually, I'm not sure I have a problem with that now, assuming the reason they don't get an official marriage is because they disagree with how the government does it)
Because it was a lot harder to get sex outside of marriage way back then. Now it's comparatively much easier and cheaper.
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