Right now our daughter's daily chores involve feeding the dog, making her bed, cleaning her room, and putting her own dishes in the sink after each meal. She also willingly helps out with other things around the house as well, like helping my wife cook. Like I said, this kid loves to help out to the point she actually throws a tantrum if you don't let her help with the housework.
Sounds like she'll grow up to own a housekeeping company, or be the next generation's home economics expert.
Going to be kind of hard for the father to not have contact when they'd be living in the same house.
Isn't he supervised? I thought sex offenders were supposed to undergo regular checks or some other procedure to make sure they're not violating their terms of release. Or is this something that differs from state to state? I've heard of some cases where the restrictions of how close these people (who have served their time) can get to children are so tight that it's nearly impossible for them to get a job and find somewhere to live.
I would give her an allowance, but not a cash-based one. Basically, as long as she keeps up with her chores I would buy her anything she wants as long as the money is available. Trust me, this kid doesn't need an allowance because she gets enough free money from relatives. She's only three and has $400 dollars in a shoebox in her dresser. She also has an account in her name that my mother deposits money in every week that's already got a few thousand dollars in it.
I'm amazed that you allow that much cash in the house, considering how little you trust your wife. Or is this one of the things she isn't allowed to know but you feel safe revealing it here because she's not smart enough to find out your online activities?
Gotta wonder why a 3-year-old would need that much cash, anyway (at least in the house; that's something a thief would really appreciate finding). Unless she wants a designer Barbie or intends to buy out the candy aisle, I can't fathom it. Or maybe, based on your description above, she's saving for a top-of-the-line vacuum cleaner of her very own...
Not just my wife. I don't see a problem with lying to anyone as long as it serves a purpose. It has long been a belief of mine that the entirety of human civilization is based on lies and it would all come crashing down if everyone all of a sudden started being 100% honest with each other.
Would you lie to your daughter? I have to assume you would, and then I predict your inability to understand why she might thereafter have trust issues with you if/when she found you out. That's one of the things that happened with my own family. Once I found out they'd lied to me about things that were important to me, it made me wonder what
else they were lying about. I never fully trusted any of them ever again.
Those are some really obscure and extremely unlikely scenarios. I don't really know how it is in Canada (you do live in Canada, right?), but it has been at least a decade since I have seen a business that has a minimum purchase limit for debit cards here in the US. And if the machine is down, then so what? If you live in a decently populated area (which we do) then there is going to be another business right down the road that has what you need and a working debit card machine.
Those are not obscure in the least. They are a daily fact of life here (yes, Canada; it says so in my location). Because of the various fees involved in debit card transactions, some businesses have a rule about minimum purchases required for debit cards. It varies, from $3 to $5 or even as high as $10 in one place. Those merchants can't fathom the idea that someone wouldn't have that much cash in their pocket or purse, and they do not bend those rules. And yeah, sometimes the machine doesn't work, or the network goes down. I've seen people leave stores empty-handed because the debit card machine didn't work and they didn't have the cash on them to pay for the stuff. And no, you can't assume that there is another business right down the road that has what you need. I guess it's not that much of a big deal if you're in a city and can jump in your car and go somewhere else. It is a big deal if you're in a small town, or if you use public transportation or you're disabled.
I didn't take issue with you discussing the topic, I took issue with you attempting to pass your opinion off as fact.
And I don't care how many marriages within your family you observed because at the end of the day you are still on the outside looking in with absolutely no practical experience in the matter. Your sample size for your observations is also severely inadequate for you to state any of your conclusions about marriage in general in a manner that portrays them as any kind of factual certainty. All I ask is that you state your opinion as an opinion and not try to talk as if you are some sort of subject matter expert on marriage.
Forgive me for assuming you would be astute enough to realize that the unwritten part of that post included "in my opinion." My mistake.

Yeah,
in my opinion, a real loving husband wouldn't treat his wife as you treat yours, and definitely wouldn't talk about her as you do. You speak very disrespectfully of her, and of course we have no way to know what her side of the story is.
As for my "sample size" being "inadequate," I haven't exactly lived alone in a cave all my life. Am I saying that some of the men I've known in my own life are/were untrustworthy? Yes. Am I saying
all men are untrustworthy? Of course not. Am I saying that my early experiences have made me extremely cautious about men? Definitely. Did I decide to opt out of marriage because of that?
Very definitely.
As for your wife's friendship with this woman who you blame for putting these crazy ideas about equality into her head, did it ever occur to you that from an outsider's perspective, your control issues can be seen as one of the classic signs of abuse? That's what it looks like to me. Your willingness to lie and deceive and sneak are other signs. Note that I am not accusing you of physical abuse. I have no reason to do that.
What reasons has your wife given for not working at an outside job? Does she believe that it's the husband's role to work and the wife's role to stay home? Does she want to stay home while your daughter is still a toddler? Have you discussed the issues involved in daycare for your daughter if your wife did get a job? It's obvious that you consider her lazy, but is she really?