There is almost zero proof of what you just said.
The universe has been compared to an organism. The spaces between stars are analogous to cell membranes. If something is able to penetrate any membrane, it eventually penetrates them all. Even assuming sublight travel we would spread across the galaxy in a fairly short time. Once invested, the tendency is to have cycles of greater or lesser activity, but never fade completely away.
Several posts ago the statement was made that we could assume only three or four starfaring civilizations in the galaxy. Examine the assumptions necessary for that outcome to be reasonable. Either life itself is quite rare, complex life is rare, intelligence is very unusual or self extermination is endemic.
You tend to conclude that the conditions for the development of intelligence are very unique or there are alien layers of ruins waiting to be discovered.
J