...then...you're apparently lacking it. (...) And it seems you just don't want it hard enough.
That is not fair. I teach English enough to know what a lack of motivation/fake motivation looks like. I have the motivation, I just don't have that much time to really invest. But this is only a supporting argument related to the matter I raise below.
If you want it just hard enough, then you can do it. No matter what drawbacks it has.
Well of course, but this also depends on your overall nerdiness/geekdom measured by the time you're willing to spend locked in your room studying grammar and vocabulary lists. I mentioned this because personally, knowing well how hard it is to actually pick up language and learn it to a level where you are not absolutely rubbish at using it (i.e. the difference between "passive" and "active" knowledge; getting there is not easy, it is definitely not fast, and it requires a lot of will), I find it difficult to imagine investing all this time and effort into, say, Hungarian or some other obscure language just because I like the country. Then I see all these people writing on the Internet how they're planning to learn this and that language, listing 3 to 5 languages they would like to learn, and I am wondering if they're serious, savants, naive, or just bragging.
It really puzzles me. I imagine if people are still doing college or high school and they have plenty of time to kill, this may be feasible, but for an adult with job responsibilities and some reasonable social life...? It does not compute
(And please this is not a criticism/doubting of anybody here, I am genuinely interested where people get the time to do all the things they say they want to do.)
Which is fine. Because, as you said: It's not really worth it. You need English, maybe the language of the country you're living in, and maybe the native language of your partner, but else you most often do just not need another language. It's more for fun. How you can have fun with it is another question, but it exists.
I have a friend from Switzerland. She speaks obviously English and German, due to education also French, due to her history Dutch, and now she learns Swedish due to her BF (who's from Sweden), and Chinese just for fun. Don't ask me how she does that, but she does it. I know that's nuts, but obviously she gets something out of that, else she would not do it.
Yup, I am just trying to understand this - or the "how", to be precise
I sometimes feel quite upset at the fact I was born into an English speaking nation since my language skills have been hampered since birth. There is no need at all to delay learning a secondary language. French should be taught from age 6 or 7, just like English is in many other countries. I can't understand why it languages aren't learnt until 11.
Is French still the most popular foreign language taught in schools?
Anyway, you're absolutely correct as to the start age for language education. 11 is way too old; best age to start is... well, from the time the child first opens its mouth to speak. Here in the Czech Rep. the new guideline is English from the 3st grade (~age of 9), but even that is too late. And the 2nd foreign language only begins in high school, which is just useless. I had German for 6 year at grammar school and it was complete rubbish; now, ten years later, I am basically beginning from scratch.