Apart from the claim that the word "genocide" is remotely appropriate for this, I agree with what you say here too. Neither I nor, I think, any of the other staff have intended to say that anyone's games or contribution to the site is "worthless". I'm sorry that I didn't express myself clearly enough before to make that plain. It's extremely worthwhile and it's been sad to see the NESing community going through difficulties, here and elsewhere, and I want you to be able to continue in whatever form is best for you. That's one of the reasons for this merger proposal and for the poll here and the discussion thread to allow people to express their concerns one way or the other. But we ask that that discussion be done civilly and in accordance with the rules of this site.
I expect we are all very glad to hear that. I think one of our prime concerns is that the imposition of a merger, against the wishes of a good proportion of the community, will,
ipso facto, prevent us from continuing in the form which is best for us, i.e. unmerged, as we are now. The real proof of this is simply that so many of us oppose it. This is why the merger should not take place.
Our other main concern is the moderation problem, which has already prevented us from continuing in the form which is best for us, by driving us out into the Frontier (which, frankly, isn't nearly as good for our purposes aside from the moderation, and moreover isn't our home). To continue in the form which is best for us, we really need to be able to control applications to our NESes, since this is vital for upholding quality in NESes which are seriously aiming for a particular kind of thing - verisimilitude and quality of writing - which is only some of them, but nevertheless NES mods need to be able to control this.
We also need to be able to trust site moderation to be reasonably fair and even-handed, which they manifestly aren't, as you can no doubt see from their partisanship in the Amon issue a while ago and in this very debate here. Almost all NESers and IOTers (with the occasional exception, e.g. <nuke>) are agreed that there are some serious problems here, and solutions include us having ways of publically appealing moderator actions and us having a moderator that we ourselves have approved of. We also need to be able to trust site moderation not to do things like impose new moderators - or similarly important things - without any proper consultation: you were attempting, I believe, to compromise with us by giving us a NESer mod in the shape of EQ, but you happened, through lack of consultation, to choose one of the few NESers that are just as unacceptable to most of us as any non-NESer could be, for historical but very real reasons.
Also, earlier on in this discussion, it was said that those of us who, because of the moderation problem, have gone to the Frontier, should have less of a say in all this: certain people suggested that only those NESers who have been active on CFC since November should have a say. You can see that, given the moderation problems, carrying out the merger would be particularly problematic, because it would be taken, in some sense, as taking advantage of our absence; any NES-IOT forum that were merged before the moderation issues were sorted out would have been set up in a way that did not take account of those of us who are not here because of those issues, and this is clearly a problem.
I hope you see that these are very real problems, and since you want us to be able to continue in the way that we wish to, I hope you will do something about them.