Basically I just need to know what to say without sound churlish. I'm half at war with myself here since I have a thing about talking about $$$, don't do it unless its to commiserate with people who have none. So what sounds socially acceptable when it comes to asking for more $$$? Can I make reference to past jobs and how much they paid? Competing offers? Glassdoor? The industry standard? My special talents? This is the HR person btw, not the partner or the person that interviewed me. Does that change how I should negotiate?