[RD] I'm transitioning. If you've ever been confused about the T in LGBT, ask me anything
- Thread starter emzie
- Start date
Please try not to go off on a tangent like this.
You can't tell me how something feels to me. You can say you don't share the same perspective, but you don't get to deny us ours. If you wish to have a conversation about dating preferences and societal attitudes, I encourage you to open a thread. If you wish to know what I think of them because I'm trans and can speak to how those exclusionary sentiments feel, to me, that's a good question for this thread.
To answer the original question,
You can't choose who you are and are not attracted to. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be judged for it on some level. Many straight guys happily date transwomen, but they all had to do some amount of work to be comfortable with the idea.
So, like, yeah it's kinda bad and disappointing, but so what? I think eating meat is unethical. I had chicken for dinner.
Arrow Gamer
America's Dictator
I find it hard to believe that you find every Asian woman, in all their varieties and different appearances, unattractive for any reason other than that they're Asian. And if you're not attracted to someone because they're Asian, what is that other than deep seated racism?
crabapple
I am watching
what about people that only like dark skinned people but are white themselves, are they racists? calling people racists because they are only attracted to a certain type of people, dilutes real racism. Racism is about hate, not love, you dont need to want to **** all types of people to not be racist.
Et_Absoluti
First Citizen
- Joined
- Dec 12, 2014
- Messages
- 388
Probably better to just come clean and move on. Honesty is the best policy after all.
Akka
Moody old mage.
*blank stare*
*blanker stare*
I... don't really think I have words to answer this...
Moderator Action: Whether having racial preferences in romantic/sexual relationships is racist or not is off-topic. Feel free to start another thread if you wish, but keep this one focused on transgender issues.
Omega124
Challenging Fate
Right, since no one else will, I guess I'll ask a question (for Contre) that I already kind of awnsered myself.
What is the most personally patronizing thing that you encountered in your transition? If you recall, I said this earlier:
Which I still think wins on the patronizing level. Although I've had other incidents that were close.
What is the most personally patronizing thing that you encountered in your transition? If you recall, I said this earlier:
Which I still think wins on the patronizing level. Although I've had other incidents that were close.
Omega124
Challenging Fate
Honestly? I was more offended the guy claimed I had mommy issues. My mom's awesome and one of the few reasons I'm the woman I am today.
A piece of advice I got once was that you should pay attention to how people treat inferiors. The context was corporate, but it works in most situations. I've yet to meet a transwoman who transitioned for the prestigious social standing. People who direct their vile at us are taking out their issues on some of the least powerful people around. It's kinda sad. If you don't see yourself as occupying the social position they're trying to paint you into, then how they're behaving comes off as... well, I pity the guy who said that.
A piece of advice I got once was that you should pay attention to how people treat inferiors. The context was corporate, but it works in most situations. I've yet to meet a transwoman who transitioned for the prestigious social standing. People who direct their vile at us are taking out their issues on some of the least powerful people around. It's kinda sad. If you don't see yourself as occupying the social position they're trying to paint you into, then how they're behaving comes off as... well, I pity the guy who said that.
Robert Can't
Éponine
In contrast what's the most uplifting moment been in the whole process?
Realizing I have the superpower to make people situations very uncomfortable for other people if I choose.
Omega124
Challenging Fate
That doesn't even work though. We don't say girls who gave daddy issues become transmen. Sounds like a piece of excrement. I'm sorry you have to deal with jerks like him.
Yeah I know what you mean (obviously since I'm living through it myself). But for those who don't, being trans is not a glamorous lifestyle. You will lose friends and likely family, and you will become a sort of persona non grata to society as a whole. But the worst thing isn't even all that; it's the constant hatred of yourself every day and night, just never ending, never letting up. It's terrible, it's not cool, and we certainly don't do it too attention.
The inferior thing is good advice in general though. It's easy to treat your peers and superiors with respect, not so much your inferiors.
Two awnsers:
1. People starting to call me Megan irl. It was just so... amazing hearing people call me that and female pronouns, even if my outside isn't in sync with my inside
2. Clothing for me is a big one too. I don't really have a wardrobe at all, but even just trying it on, omygod. It makes me feel like a girl
Spoiler half joke half seriousbawnser :
FriendlyFire
Codex WMDicanious
Dose your drivers license say M (male) ? dose it cause problems ?
Or do people just assume you to just be gay / cross dresser ?
In Japan was watching a program about good clubs and places to visit, and they had a gay club, someone said he decided to try out school girl uniform and liked it so he decided to wear it all the time and he was suddenly bi-sexual. :O I found that very weird. Japan is weird they are both tolerant but also intolerant its some weird Japanese culture thing I guess.
Could you just be bi-sexual ?
Or do people just assume you to just be gay / cross dresser ?
In Japan was watching a program about good clubs and places to visit, and they had a gay club, someone said he decided to try out school girl uniform and liked it so he decided to wear it all the time and he was suddenly bi-sexual. :O I found that very weird. Japan is weird they are both tolerant but also intolerant its some weird Japanese culture thing I guess.
Could you just be bi-sexual ?
- Joined
- Apr 4, 2010
- Messages
- 8,873
Just cutting in here, a bisexual is something different from being trans. A bisexual person is someone who is attracted to men and women (and usually people identifying as something else, although the formal definition of bisexual is something I won't get into here). Not saying its impossible for a trans person to be bisexual, but being trans doesn't imply you are bisexual and being bisexual doesn't imply you are trans.
As for getting dressed up in clothing that is traditionally considered for the other gender yet still identifying as a man, that's called crossdressing and that's something completely independent from both bisexuality and being trans.
In your example about the Japanese man, he would be a cismale bisexual crossdresser.
Omega124
Challenging Fate
I don't have a drivers license at all; never bothered to learn to drive. My birth certificate still says male (and uses male name). I will get that changed soon, but that soon depends on me actually restarting my transisition and no money
I don't know the awnser to the latter question because I haven't really presented female in public yet. I hope they see me as a woman, but that likely won't be te case at the start.
I really don't know the context of the video itself, but I'm really curious to see it because I think you're missing something in your recap of this person.
That being said, I concur everything Ninjacow said.
Omega124
Challenging Fate
It really depends on the individual. I'm not too knowledgable on the specific dates for specific things, but it generally is a process that takes about 1-2 years of continuous treatment to appear as the desired sex. It could take about 6 months for lucky indiviual to pass, or it could be more 2-3 for others.
Similar threads
