I think that if IoTers are willing to accept the fact that NESers often demand a very high standard of narrative quality and realism in their games, and are willing to adapt to that, and realize that that kind of experience can be extremely rewarding, it would definitely make a merger more useful. That sort of thing requires research, accepting criticism, and a little more work than the average throwaway forum gamer might be willing to contribute, but the dividends are enormous.
I know a lot of skilled IoTers, like SK, and Robert Can't, and so on, whose posts make me feel okay about a possible merge. But then I see a lot of other people making posts riddled with typos and with a bare modicum of effort or forethought, and that makes me worry in turn about the future of the hobby.
I'm not worried about being elitist or exclusionary, but I think that having high standards and playing deep, involved games that may require pushing your intellectual talents to their limit in order to properly compete is something that may be new to some IoTers. For example, if someone tries to come into my game and post ridiculous nonsense, I'll be patient with them at first, but if they persist, they'll fail in a rather spectacular and embarrassing fashion, and they won't be able to rejoin.
I don't want to hurt IoT'ers feelings if they have that kind of experience in my thread.