While We Wait: Boredom Strikes Back

[Northen Wolf]

Too bad this is America.

Prove it!

 

[nutranurse]

All the internets are American. Al Gore invented it!

 

[Lord_Iggy]

Down with cybernationalism!

 

[Anonymoose]

I'm with NW on this. Mostly because it's time for his new NES to start. GET ON IT, PUNK.

 

[thomas.berubeg]

[9:30:21 PM] thomas.berubeg: oops. didn't mean to send you things. forgot
[9:31:35 PM] Thomas's Ex: STOP being bitter, please
[9:31:39 PM] thomas.berubeg: I'm not
[9:31:41 PM] thomas.berubeg: I just wanted to give you space
[9:31:45 PM] Thomas's Ex: yes, you are
[9:31:49 PM] thomas.berubeg: and I can't do that when I keep sending stuff
[9:31:50 PM] thomas.berubeg: I was
[9:31:52 PM] Thomas's Ex: you're being bitter about it
[9:31:53 PM] thomas.berubeg: I'll readily admit it
[9:32:05 PM] thomas.berubeg: I'll readily admit I was bitter
[9:32:12 PM] Thomas's Ex: that's why i need space! because you're constantly bitter!
[9:32:15 PM] Thomas's Ex: i can't take it anymore
[9:32:19 PM] thomas.berubeg: however, now? not any more. I'm not anymore...
[9:32:26 PM] Thomas's Ex: yes, you are
[9:32:30 PM] Thomas's Ex: that was bitter
[9:32:31 PM] thomas.berubeg: no...
[9:32:36 PM] thomas.berubeg: really not, nikky
[9:32:37 PM] Thomas's Ex: about sending me things, yes
[9:32:38 PM] thomas.berubeg: I swear
[9:32:45 PM] thomas.berubeg: you said you wanted space.
[9:32:52 PM] thomas.berubeg: and sending you things is habit, really.
[9:33:06 PM] thomas.berubeg: and so, when tipsy, as I am now, I reverted.
[9:33:07 PM] Thomas's Ex: i don't care if you send me things!!!!!!!!!!!!!
[9:33:15 PM] thomas.berubeg: hahaha
[9:33:15 PM] thomas.berubeg: ok
[9:33:20 PM] thomas.berubeg:
[9:33:26 PM] Thomas's Ex: just stop being bitter, or at least stop being bitter out loud
[9:33:29 PM] Thomas's Ex: it's annoying
[9:33:34 PM] thomas.berubeg: I'm not
[9:33:39 PM] thomas.berubeg: I really aren't
[9:33:53 PM] thomas.berubeg: I know you don't beleive me, but... that doesn't matter, cause it's true
[9:34:02 PM] thomas.berubeg: I was just respecting your wishes about giving you space
[9:34:08 PM] thomas.berubeg: or, at least, attempting and failing at it
[9:34:19 PM] Thomas's Ex: well then STOP SOUNDING BITTER
[9:34:21 PM] Thomas's Ex: that's all
[9:34:27 PM] thomas.berubeg: how am I sounding bitter?
[9:34:32 PM] thomas.berubeg: I really don't mean too
[9:34:39 PM] thomas.berubeg: I don't feel like I'm speaking any differently than I usually do
[9:34:50 PM] Thomas's Ex: well then i guess you are always bitter, huh?
[9:34:59 PM] thomas.berubeg: perhaps, my dear
[9:35:06 PM] thomas.berubeg: though I'd like to think I'm grander than that
[9:35:12 PM] thomas.berubeg: unless... you are projecting this bitterness on what I say?
[9:35:27 PM] thomas.berubeg: I mean that entirly honestly and unbitterly
[9:36:17 PM] thomas.berubeg: Is that why you're hiding yourself as offline?
[9:36:27 PM] Thomas's Ex: i'm not offline
[9:36:40 PM] thomas.berubeg: it says you are... are you "hidden"?
[9:36:53 PM] thomas.berubeg: or invisible, or whatever
[9:37:12 PM] Thomas's Ex: no, i'm just online
[9:37:21 PM] thomas.berubeg: huh. well, not according to my computer
[9:38:06 PM] thomas.berubeg: I don't know what to tell you, then
[9:38:41 PM] thomas.berubeg: was that bitter?
[9:38:46 PM] thomas.berubeg: (and that? )
[9:38:54 PM] Thomas's Ex: no, it wasn't
[9:39:14 PM] thomas.berubeg: see? I don't see that, or felt any differently, writing it than anything else
[9:39:36 PM] thomas.berubeg: I think you ascribe a level of pettiness and emotional anger much deeper than I really have
[9:40:51 PM] thomas.berubeg: I'm really not a negative person... you should know that. I don't hold on to negative emotions for long.
[9:42:35 PM] thomas.berubeg: :\ that's just the way I see myself. other people might see me differently, but...
[9:44:14 PM] thomas.berubeg: anyway, how was your day?
[9:53:14 PM] thomas.berubeg: Nicole, I know you are going to ignore this, and I completly understand, and it is not bitterness, but an honest appraisal: Is it possible that the way you say you see me as acting is a reflection of your own emotional turmoil. (I'm in NO way saying that you still love me, because I know that's not the case: no matter how sad that makes me, I refuse to delude myself into thinking anything like that, but... that you are not sure where we stand, and so you, subconsciously, try to push me away?)
and... Please don't take this insultingly... if this is the case, then... please don't? Nicole, I like talking to you, and I can't if you get annoyed everytime we talk... which seems to be the case recently.
I hope that did sound too acusatory
[10:00:21 PM] thomas.berubeg: because you do seem to be trying to push me further away.
[10:00:25 PM] thomas.berubeg: forgive the bluntnes
[10:09:15 PM] thomas.berubeg: I know that probably really pissed you off, and me continueing to talk to you likely isn't helping in the least... but, Nik. I don't want you to be mad or unhappy... I just want you to get through this
[10:09:45 PM] Thomas's Ex: get through what?
[10:09:47 PM] Thomas's Ex: I'm fine!
[10:09:51 PM] thomas.berubeg: and start treating me like an actual person, not a constant annoyance, a fly buzzing in your ear
[10:10:00 PM] thomas.berubeg: you are constantly annoyed at me
[10:10:39 PM] thomas.berubeg: and I don't think I did anything to deserve it. tell me if I did, but I don't think so
[10:11:27 PM] thomas.berubeg: Nicole, I still think of you as my best friend, despite this all. and there is NO way I'm going to sacrafice that. NO way at all
[10:25:18 PM] thomas.berubeg: Honestly, Nik, I'd like an honest answer to what you see me as, now
[10:33:33 PM] thomas.berubeg: Nicole, why did our relationship degrade so much after you broke up with me? I really tried to maintain it.
[10:34:00 PM] Thomas's Ex: because i BROKE UP with you
[10:34:09 PM] Thomas's Ex: we can't maintain the same relationship!
[10:34:11 PM] thomas.berubeg: I meant the friendship
[10:34:17 PM] thomas.berubeg: that could have been maintained
[10:34:33 PM] Thomas's Ex: but not the same way, not right away!
[10:34:59 PM] thomas.berubeg: which is why you've been treating me like scum?
[10:35:03 PM] thomas.berubeg: and don't deny it
[10:35:24 PM] Thomas's Ex: yes, that's why
[10:35:35 PM] Thomas's Ex: i told you i need space
[10:35:51 PM] thomas.berubeg: and I tried to give it to you. I slipped up today... I know I did. I didn't mean to
[10:37:11 PM] thomas.berubeg: However. you were the one who said, originally, that you didn't need space, that you wanted to still be my friend. I'm sorry I took you at your word
[10:39:12 PM] thomas.berubeg: Goodnight and Goodbye. I don't think I really know you, anymore.

Am I being unreasonable here? I'm too upset and angry to think straight right now. and you guys (IE an internet Gaming forum) probably aren't the best people to turn to, but I don't care.

 

[Anonymoose]

Yeah you're being unreasonable. I'd give it more time if I were you.

 

[qoou]

Yes thomas, you're being unreasonable. A hint: if you start referring to someone by their full first name (Nicole) rather than their preferred nickname (Nikky or Nik or whatever) (lol. "Nik"name. awesome pun. anyway...) you're probably being unreasonable.


Anyway, are there any people here interested in a game of good old Diplomacy? I thought Neptune's Pride would satisfy that craving somewhat, but unfortunately it's not quite doing the job.

 

[Anonymoose]

I'm awful at Diplomacy, even after reading some strategy and stuff. But I know there are some chumps around here that wanna play.

 

[nutranurse]

Anonymoose: Just lie a lot! BAM! DIPLOMACY.

I'd be up for a game.

 

[Neverwonagame3]

Alright- I'm in.

 

[Dachs]

Anyway, are there any people here interested in a game of good old Diplomacy? I thought Neptune's Pride would satisfy that craving somewhat, but unfortunately it's not quite doing the job.

I'd be interested in an F2F game, but that's kinda impossible. So, no. Diplomacy over the internet sucks.

 

[Lord_Iggy]

I think you're being a bit too aggressive... I think Nicole understands how you feel, but if you keep on pressuring her like that, it won't endear you to her at all. It seems like you're hurting both yourself and her, and your chances of mending things up with her and salvaging a friendship in the future. If you want my advice, give her some space, when you talk to her, genuinely try to put the past behind you and treat her like you would a close friend, and try your hardest to sound positive. It is a bad idea to try and pin the reasons for anything happening on someone else's emotional turmoil- it's a little obnoxious, and few people want their exes to be their therapists.

 

[Northen Wolf]

I'm with NW on this. Mostly because it's time for his new NES to start. GET ON IT, PUNK.

I will, I will. Once I get my school term finished =)

 

[Ekolite]

@thomas: I know we already talked about this but I think what you need to do is maintain some distance from her for a while. You're not sounding bitter to me but you are sounding overly aggressive and a little bit pedantic I think. At college I dated one of my best friends too, and when I broke up with her it was very difficult to salvage our friendship. I didn't really speak to her for a couple of months, but after that we slowly got talking again and we both talked about how why our relationship hadn't really worked and acknowledged our own parts in that, and to be honest we came through it stronger then ever. You can't go from friends to relationship and then back to friends immediately, it's really important that you give things some time to cool off.

 

[bombshoo]

Am I being unreasonable here? I'm too upset and angry to think straight right now. and you guys (IE an internet Gaming forum) probably aren't the best people to turn to, but I don't care.

You're being perfectly reasonable in my opinion. The problem is that she isn't and seems unlikely to change. Sometimes you just have to accept that no matter how right/reasonable you are yourself, the other person isn't going to be that way too. Give her "space" like she asked for.

 

[SKILORD]

It is unreasonable to care the slightest bit about anything an ex thinks or says. Past that it is totally possible you're being reasonable.

 

[Luckymoose]

Women who act like that are why they have therapists for domestic abuse. I'd personally sleep with her best friend(s) and make her regret being such a snobby b*tch.

 

[nutranurse]

You're all such relationship gurus.

 

[SKILORD]

You're all such relationship gurus.

Well, it's a video gaming website, what did you expect?

 

[das]

You're all such relationship gurus.

Well thomas certainly seemed to assume we are, at any rate. I suppose none of us wanted to disappoint him.