Well the personal anecdote above certainly implied it was "a choice". The person in question had a bad experience with some men and then decided to try women and liked it better. That is certainly not a "biologically driven" decision. i.e. genes.
Had she had a good experience with a man who connected to her better, she may not have tried women. Relationships are based on making a connection to the right person, be that a man or a woman.
... well she did say ...No, that's not what happened at all, and that conclusion doesn't follow from that interpretation anyway.
... sounds like emotions to me.LucyDuke said:... and I didn't like them. I didn't like them and it wasn't pleasurable at all.
I'm not sure I'd call sexual pleasure an emotion at least not one I've had much success controlling.... well she did say ... ... sounds like emotions to me.
... well she did say ... ... sounds like emotions to me.
We're talking about our "desires" are we not, which are emotions, and as far as I know emotions are controlled by the mind. How you act on these emotions is the choices you make. i.e. your mind is doing that.
The argument here is that sexuality is biologically determined and not a choice a person makes. - "Determinates of Sexuality" - Why I am probably strongly opposed to the suggestion it is "gene-based", is people can make choices how to live and accept a lifestyle they feel comfortable with. There are countless examples of people overcoming what their "genes" have given them.
Don't get me wrong, how a person chooses to live, is a freedom I would fight for, as I value freedom above all else, just don't tell me they are doing it because of their "genes", people have shown to be stronger.
My difficulty comes in that I am a liberal / progressive supporter of gay rights and other supporters of gay rights generally reject the notion that sexuality is anything but a biological mandate. To complicate matters, many people who oppose equality for homosexuals seem to subscribe to the notion that sexuality is determined, at least in part, by ones environment and choices.
[...]
Is it easier to push for and advance gay rights if sexuality is viewed as a biological attribute?
Oh, for goodness sake! Take Matlock's advice:
stick with the truth - it's easier to remember.
You're right to be skeptical of bio-determinism. But it doesn't matter so much whether you're right or wrong, you've still got to call it as you see it. Don't start engaging in a coverup. It's a bad idea, even if you never get caught. Human rights have to be defended for matters of choice, or for environmentally determined traits, just as much as biologically determined ones.
Why the hell should it matter where "the gay" comes from, consenting adults still have the right to privacy in their bedrooms. The world needs to grow up.
I think everybody can be gay. For instance, if suddenly all women vanished, gay sex would be the way to go. We see this in Afghanistan, where gay sex is used to circumvent the "no sex outside of marriage" dogma, in ancient Greek fathers would "teach" their sons to have sex, prisons have been mentioned as an example of how this actually happens, too. Of course not everyone has gay sex when being in prison, but they also have still woman to at least desire and they are still members of a larger society where it is mainly about having sex with the other sex.
Maybe there are people who are so deeply revolved by having sex with the same gender (and not just by culture), that they wouldn't ever. But then, there are also asexuals, so that is not surprising. The point is - this is rather the exception than the norm IMO to not have the basic capacity to enjoy intimacy with the same gender.
However, as is obvious, hetero is still the way more common and natural way to go. So this is what is being done (fostered by different social and culture phenomenas). But in times of material surplus and where traditional social bounds are not necessary to have a life, sexuality more and more is determined by desire only, so no surprise a more wider perspective of it is again assumed by people.
And saying this, I also agree that the polarity of sexuality is a myth. I don't think of my self as gay, I don't feel aroused when seeing other males or when touching them. But I think if for whatever reasons I focused on being attracted to males and trying this or that out, I could.
Also, by this I don't mean to support the "choice"-explanation. I think one can choose to explore parts of one's sexuality which have not surfaced so far, but at the same time, in other cases those parts will force their way to the surface while others which usually do don't.