The Very-Many-Questions-Not-Worth-Their-Own-Thread Thread ΛΕ

[Hygro]

wait are you really a bouncer?

 

[PPQ_Purple]

Here is a q. What's the best controller I can get for playing Dark Souls on a PC? I've been lead to believe the 360 controller is nice for it, but I need a second opinion.

 

[warpus]

We have an elderly (85+) grandmother who is very independent and lives on her own, but is starting to exhibit some signs of confusion about some things. We are trying to come together as a family and figure out some solutions to some problems to make her life easier and safer.

One of the problems is that she will forget to turn off the lights and it will keep her up at night. Then during the day she sleeps and is tired.

Has somebody used technology to deal with something like this before? I have some ideas but not sure about the right approach:

1. A smart lighting system that can be programmed and connects to the internet and can be accessed from elsewhere - Maybe something like this?
2. My sister already suggested alexa and IFTTT but isn't sure about the details or how it would work exactly
3. I am thinking that motion sensored lights in the whole house would be almost perfect maybe? If my grandmother is in a room, the light is on. If she isn't, it's off. Works perfect except for the bedroom - what to do there?
4. We could set up cameras in the house so we can monitor our grandmother and make sure that she is ok. My grandmother would be okay with any privacy concerns I believe, but we would ask her.
5. Some combination of the above.

What would you suggest? Another one of the bigger problems right now is that she gets lonely. She sees a person a day and we've set up her phone to easily call any one of us, but it's not enough. I was told some versions of Alexa have a screen and make it easy to have video chat by just saying a couple words? It seems that the screen would be small though.

Any suggestions on any of these fronts? Thank you!

 

[Hrothbern]

We have an elderly (85+) grandmother who is very independent and lives on her own, but is starting to exhibit some signs of confusion about some things. We are trying to come together as a family and figure out some solutions to some problems to make her life easier and safer.

One of the problems is that she will forget to turn off the lights and it will keep her up at night. Then during the day she sleeps and is tired.

Has somebody used technology to deal with something like this before? I have some ideas but not sure about the right approach:

1. A smart lighting system that can be programmed and connects to the internet and can be accessed from elsewhere - Maybe something like this?
2. My sister already suggested alexa and IFTTT but isn't sure about the details or how it would work exactly
3. I am thinking that motion sensored lights in the whole house would be almost perfect maybe? If my grandmother is in a room, the light is on. If she isn't, it's off. Works perfect except for the bedroom - what to do there?
4. We could set up cameras in the house so we can monitor our grandmother and make sure that she is ok. My grandmother would be okay with any privacy concerns I believe, but we would ask her.
5. Some combination of the above.

What would you suggest? Another one of the bigger problems right now is that she gets lonely. She sees a person a day and we've set up her phone to easily call any one of us, but it's not enough. I was told some versions of Alexa have a screen and make it easy to have video chat by just saying a couple words? It seems that the screen would be small though.

Any suggestions on any of these fronts? Thank you!

She does still go to her bedroom for the night ?
(or does she try to sleep fir the night in the living room on a couch)

 

[Cutlass]

We have an elderly (85+) grandmother who is very independent and lives on her own, but is starting to exhibit some signs of confusion about some things. We are trying to come together as a family and figure out some solutions to some problems to make her life easier and safer.

One of the problems is that she will forget to turn off the lights and it will keep her up at night. Then during the day she sleeps and is tired.

Has somebody used technology to deal with something like this before? I have some ideas but not sure about the right approach:

1. A smart lighting system that can be programmed and connects to the internet and can be accessed from elsewhere - Maybe something like this?
2. My sister already suggested alexa and IFTTT but isn't sure about the details or how it would work exactly
3. I am thinking that motion sensored lights in the whole house would be almost perfect maybe? If my grandmother is in a room, the light is on. If she isn't, it's off. Works perfect except for the bedroom - what to do there?
4. We could set up cameras in the house so we can monitor our grandmother and make sure that she is ok. My grandmother would be okay with any privacy concerns I believe, but we would ask her.
5. Some combination of the above.

What would you suggest? Another one of the bigger problems right now is that she gets lonely. She sees a person a day and we've set up her phone to easily call any one of us, but it's not enough. I was told some versions of Alexa have a screen and make it easy to have video chat by just saying a couple words? It seems that the screen would be small though.

Any suggestions on any of these fronts? Thank you!

The best solutions is, I'm afraid, the one that pleases nobody: She moves in with somebody, or vice versa.

 

[Valka D'Ur]

We have an elderly (85+) grandmother who is very independent and lives on her own, but is starting to exhibit some signs of confusion about some things. We are trying to come together as a family and figure out some solutions to some problems to make her life easier and safer.

One of the problems is that she will forget to turn off the lights and it will keep her up at night. Then during the day she sleeps and is tired.

What you are describing are symptoms of dementia or early stages of Alzheimers. Has she seen a doctor recently?

 

[warpus]

What you are describing are symptoms of dementia or early stages of Alzheimers. Has she seen a doctor recently?

Yeah, she's been in and out of the hospital. This all started when she didn't eat enough (or much?) food for a bit while on a certain type of medication. It affected her sugar levels and made her exhibit those signs of dementia for the first time. Once she was discharged she now has a person stopping by once a day at least I think, some sort of a social worker? I'm murky on some of these details. My aunt makes sure she takes her meds and comes to visit often, as they live in the same city. My mom lives 200km away but she has been visiting every 2-3 weeks and staying for days, as her work allows.

She's been back to see a doctor since, and we are looking for a home for her where she can have 24/7 supervision. The reality of the situation is not lost on us and we do not expect her to be able to live on her own for much longer. But the waiting list is long and for now my grandmother is happiest at home. She was the matriarch of the family and is very independent and my aunt has decided that for now this is the best solution, assuming we can figure out these temporary issues that I mentioned in my previous post.

She does still go to her bedroom for the night ?
(or does she try to sleep fir the night in the living room on a couch)

I think she goes to her bedroom to sleep, but just doesn't end up sleeping because all the lights are on in her apt? I'm not sure about the details, this was a no doubt emotional online message I received from my Aunt in the family group chat, for a while not many details were shared, as this was first unraveling, and that was the first real explanation of what grandma is really experiencing from her pov. i.e. mixing up names, memories about the past, crying a lot, being emotional. So I know that she does not turn off the lights sometimes and it leads her to not sleeping, but not sure about exact details

The best solutions is, I'm afraid, the one that pleases nobody: She moves in with somebody, or vice versa.

Her apartment is too small for a 2nd person living there full-time. I think there's also some logistical limitations with my aunt's house as well, but am not sure. My grandmother stays there I think almost every weekend now? Not really sure. Last time I went to visit my grandmother, it was saturday afternoon and my aunt was also arriving in order to pick up my grandmother and take her to her place for a couple days.

I think one of the problems is that when my grandmother is happy she is doing a lot better overall. That's the state we want her to be in, she can actually get stuff done, she doesn't forget to turn off the lights, etc. And I think she likes her apartment, friends her age who come visit, and maybe just the familiarity of "her place", the way she set it up, etc.

So maybe that's why my aunt is not having her move in full-time. I'm not really sure. Either way the questions I asked earlier are meant to be a temporary solution, for 2-4 years? while the situation is sorted out and we find her an long-term care facility that ticks off all the boxes. For now we have a list and are on various waiting lists

 

[Birdjaguar]

Yeah, she's been in and out of the hospital. This all started when she didn't eat enough (or much?) food for a bit while on a certain type of medication. It affected her sugar levels and made her exhibit those signs of dementia for the first time. Once she was discharged she now has a person stopping by once a day at least I think, some sort of a social worker? I'm murky on some of these details. My aunt makes sure she takes her meds and comes to visit often, as they live in the same city. My mom lives 200km away but she has been visiting every 2-3 weeks and staying for days, as her work allows.

She's been back to see a doctor since, and we are looking for a home for her where she can have 24/7 supervision. The reality of the situation is not lost on us and we do not expect her to be able to live on her own for much longer. But the waiting list is long and for now my grandmother is happiest at home. She was the matriarch of the family and is very independent and my aunt has decided that for now this is the best solution, assuming we can figure out these temporary issues that I mentioned in my previous post.

I think she goes to her bedroom to sleep, but just doesn't end up sleeping because all the lights are on in her apt? I'm not sure about the details, this was a no doubt emotional online message I received from my Aunt in the family group chat, for a while not many details were shared, as this was first unraveling, and that was the first real explanation of what grandma is really experiencing from her pov. i.e. mixing up names, memories about the past, crying a lot, being emotional. So I know that she does not turn off the lights sometimes and it leads her to not sleeping, but not sure about exact details

Her apartment is too small for a 2nd person living there full-time. I think there's also some logistical limitations with my aunt's house as well, but am not sure. My grandmother stays there I think almost every weekend now? Not really sure. Last time I went to visit my grandmother, it was saturday afternoon and my aunt was also arriving in order to pick up my grandmother and take her to her place for a couple days.

I think one of the problems is that when my grandmother is happy she is doing a lot better overall. That's the state we want her to be in, she can actually get stuff done, she doesn't forget to turn off the lights, etc. And I think she likes her apartment, friends her age who come visit, and maybe just the familiarity of "her place", the way she set it up, etc.

So maybe that's why my aunt is not having her move in full-time. I'm not really sure. Either way the questions I asked earlier are meant to be a temporary solution, for 2-4 years? while the situation is sorted out and we find her an long-term care facility that ticks off all the boxes. For now we have a list and are on various waiting lists

We have been down this path twice. Once with my wife's mom and more recently with my mother. Dementia was not involved with either though. For my mother in law she had a stroke that she mostly recovered from, but could no longer live in her apartment alone. We moved her into an assisted living place that was just Ok and visited her several times a week. We found a much better one (Beehive brand) and moved her there for the last year or so of her life. She died peacefully at 99. Again, Beehive was close and we visited her regularly. My mother stayed in her house and had in home help. She had a live in housekeeper who cooked, cleaned, did laundry etc and made sure she was OK. In addition, she had a 24 hour "nurse" who took care of bathing, dressing, medications, being there when she woke up in the night, etc. My brother who lives in Baltimore was also around as needed and oversaw her more serious medical issues. She died at 100. In both situations the costs were not cheap. IIRC, Beehive was about $6,000 a month. If your family can swing it, the dying at home path is much better for the person. Daily family participation in the care of an elderly parent is terribly difficult and time consuming and usually, that burden will fall on one person. Paid help will help keep them sane.

 

[Takhisis]

No, that would be normal behavior. When you send your tax returns to the IRS there is an expectation of privacy. Violating that privacy in one case, even the case of a scum-sucker like D'ump, might not be the greatest thing ever. So I'd expect they'd be hesitant.

But, supposing there were a court order of some sort, wouldn't then the expectation be that privacy be lifted?

(I'm 53)

You what.

That's all great, but how do tax returns figure as evidence? Do you expect bribes and embezzlement to be itemized under "income"?

Nnno, but the numbers of their legally-declared income and holdings not adding up is what did in the Trump-admiring Kirchnerists in the 2015 general election here.

 

[Dachs]

Agency = capacity to effect change
Responsibility = bureaucratic/ethical/legal obligation to effect change

As a bouncer I have the agency to tackle whomever I want in the bar in the name of „keeping the peace,“ but I have a responsibility to use my discretion and only tackle a patron when there exists no other way to maintain or restore peace.

wait are you really a bouncer?

yeah, way to bury the lede, Horace Greeley

 

[Timsup2nothin]

But, supposing there were a court order of some sort, wouldn't then the expectation be that privacy be lifted?

Perhaps. Only after the authority of the court has been established. In lifting the expectation of privacy, in the US, there's usually quite a bit of deliberation.

 

[Takhisis]

So how does Facegle get away with siphoning off all my private information and selling it to anonymous people?

 

[Hygro]

You agreed to a terms of service and aren't going to exert effort fighting them.

 

[Takhisis]

Oh, i already know that's how it turns out in practice, but I was wondering about how USian legal thinking tends to boil down to ‘this thing is bad if the state does it to its citizens but not if a non-state entity does it to its customers’.

/freedom

 

[Cutlass]

Oh, i already know that's how it turns out in practice, but I was wondering about how USian legal thinking tends to boil down to ‘this thing is bad if the state does it to its citizens but not if a non-state entity does it to its customers’.

/freedom

Crony capitalism is the only capitalism.

 

[Birdjaguar]

@Takhisis Can you find an exporter of Quebracho wood to the US? It's an Argentine wood. Small quantities, not large.

 

[Takhisis]

@Takhisis Can you find an exporter of Quebracho wood to the US? It's an Argentine wood. Small quantities, not large.

Define ‘small quantities’ and I'll look into it when I come back into the world of the waking.

 

[Birdjaguar]

Define ‘small quantities’ and I'll look into it when I come back into the world of the waking.

Boxes or crates rather than containers. I have a friend who is a woodworker who uses 24 different kinds of wood in his work, but does not have a source for Quebracho. Tucker Woodshop is on facebook.

 

[warpus]

We have been down this path twice. Once with my wife's mom and more recently with my mother. Dementia was not involved with either though. For my mother in law she had a stroke that she mostly recovered from, but could no longer live in her apartment alone. We moved her into an assisted living place that was just Ok and visited her several times a week. We found a much better one (Beehive brand) and moved her there for the last year or so of her life. She died peacefully at 99. Again, Beehive was close and we visited her regularly. My mother stayed in her house and had in home help. She had a live in housekeeper who cooked, cleaned, did laundry etc and made sure she was OK. In addition, she had a 24 hour "nurse" who took care of bathing, dressing, medications, being there when she woke up in the night, etc. My brother who lives in Baltimore was also around as needed and oversaw her more serious medical issues. She died at 100. In both situations the costs were not cheap. IIRC, Beehive was about $6,000 a month. If your family can swing it, the dying at home path is much better for the person. Daily family participation in the care of an elderly parent is terribly difficult and time consuming and usually, that burden will fall on one person. Paid help will help keep them sane.

Thanks and I'm sorry you had to go through that as well. We currently have a person stopping by to clean and look after my grandmother. I'm not sure if it's a nurse. There might be 2 people stopping by on a regular basis, one for housecleaning, one for more personal requests.

For whatever reason, my aunt's place is not a good place for this, and the rest of the family lives too far. I think the problem might be the stairs, but not really sure.

We are on waiting lists for homes, and they are cheaper here, just comparing to the $6k USD. A lot of them are subsidised by the government and those are the ones we signed up for. I think most are like that? Some are private but they are as expensive as what you quote or pricier, these are outside of our price range. But I think here these are for the "1%"

 

[Gori the Grey]

You what.

Have I come off as older or as younger?