My rule is nothing outside of ten years and no one under thirty. (unless she's 25, really hot, and wants to dance or something)
But for relationships, no one under thirty.
But for relationships, no one under thirty.
Will it be no one under 31 next year?My rule is nothing outside of ten years and no one under thirty. (unless she's 25, really hot, and wants to dance or something)
But for relationships, no one under thirty.
Smart guy.Will it be no one under 31 next year?
That rule unironically should be applicable to me. The availability of women in general remains a bit of a problem at present, though.My rule is nothing outside of ten years and no one under thirty. (unless she's 25, really hot, and wants to dance or something)
The womenfolk gone left the village?That rule unironically should be applicable to me. The availability of women in general remains a bit of a problem at present, though.
And the problem is...? She won't let you date? She insists on chaperoning your dates?Well, since this is the questions thread I have to answer.
The problem is that I've been stuck with my smother for the last year and a half.
Oh I'll never catch up.Smart guy.
No I have one more year left, then it's 31.
Yeah, I don't know if that guideline of "½+7" has much utility for me, because I can't see myself dating anyone that young anyway.I've also been hanging around with some Erasmus exchange students last year, and man, they'd fall under that limit, and I did actually feel old.
Oh I'll never catch up.
Catching up in age is a difficult thing to do without a very fast spaceship (for the other person).Well, it'll probably take a decade, but you will. Never fear!
For myself, I've almost always trended older (up to 8 years) or younger (up to 6 years). The younger is something I'm "growing out of," largely because I become attracted to younger people due to potential instead of who they currently are, and that's almost always a losing bet. It's rare that I develop a connection with someone of similar age. I'm not sure why; possibly too much comparison between our lives. It's easier to feel poorly about where I am in life if I'm pursuing someone of equal age who is more advanced
Oh, no, we're just locked in here.And the problem is...? She won't let you date? She insists on chaperoning your dates?
Taken from the movies thread:
I remember years ago it was said that the youngest woman a man should date was half his own age, plus 7 years. So a 14-year-old boy could date a 14-year-old girl; a 30-yr-old man could date a 23-yr-old woman; a 50-yr-old man could date a 32-yr-old woman; etc.
That was in the '90s, for men who dated women. Does this rule-of-thumb still work today? Is there any such rule-of-thumb for men who date men, or for women, whoever they date?
It was never clear to me why the formulation existed in the first place. Maybe it was mostly for younger guys? I actually did date an 18-yr-old when I was 22. At the time, I felt like I was immature for my age and she was mature for hers, but maybe that was more typical of our peer group than it felt like it was to me. Maybe a 22-yr-old guy dating an 18-yr-old woman isn't particularly noteworthy.
Is there an age gap in a partner, or just in a date, that would make you feel self-conscious?
p.s. Another thing that made me think of this, in addition to the exchange above, was reading an article about the actress Florence Pugh, age 25, who's been getting some stick on social media for dating Zach Braff, age 44. Of maybe he's the one who's been getting the grief. Either way, it's social media, somebody's always irate about something. But still, it got me thinking.
There are plenty of inexperienced people in their 20s or even early 30s.That expires young.
Very young.
Right, when we're talking about children, we need to be firm about it. I would probably object if someone tried to actually enforce this rule-of-thumb on an adult. For instance, knowing absolutely nothing about either Florence Pugh or Zach Braff, I off-handedly dismiss their critics as social media trolls who need to find a hobby, because regardless of the age difference, both actors are adults.It's not really an age thing so much as an experience thing. Assuming people's love lives sorta match their chronological age, a person substantially older is substantially more experienced. And so can use that experience to seduce a less experienced person. In short, not a match of equals. Which is the core value behind both the statutory rape laws, and age of consent laws.
Would it apply to all cases, no. But it certainly applies to many.