H4run
Deity
I would imagine caring about success within the context of the child's individuality is worth more than the question of advocating genius or persistence. Many parents want their children to be successful at what they assign their children to, and often care very little about the child's own wants. To them, "hard work" or "genius" are interchangeable aspects of the same reality: being forced to do pursue excellence in something they may have no desire to excel in.
I agree, that's why I chose home-schooling, and my oldest son want to be a Chef and he cook and make cake at home. But the emphasis on reaching their goal through process than because of they are being themselves is still important so he can accept failure not as a threat to his identity, he need to feel liberated on failing without feeling burden about it.
I remember my sister ask him if he ever study at home, he say he never study, even though he know 2 languages and able to read 2 alphabet, because everything is pretty much playing/game in his view. But I think I need to put him to regular school next year so he can socialize with other and perfected his Indonesian, but what I worry is it would kill his love for book and learning when it's become obligatory for him to do so at school.
edit: To learn Indonesian is essential for them to communicate with other children, not always with me or my wife. And we cannot conditioned him to learn Indonesian when he doesn't want to, except at school which the situation would naturally makes him learn.
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