I've never claimed any professional capacity. Nor have I ever mentioned "victim mentality". Victim isn't to blame for what happened. But they can, if they want, control how much will that affect how they treat other people that had nothing to do with what happened. It's not easy, but doable.
If you learn to expect the worst, you'll see the worst in every situation. And in the end, all you'll do is to just spread **** around, and it will eventually land back on your face. You can recognize it and pull yourself back, give people the benefit of doubt, and everyone will be better off.
I said you "lightly touched" on the phrase victim mentality. Which you did. I took pains to ensure I wasn't misquoting you. Similarly, I didn't say you claimed professional capacity. That was me trying to explain to you the reaction(s) you're getting, based on your providing advice. This forum alone has enough of that advice. Genuinely, it's worn thin. Repeatedly. That's not on you, that's just context.
However, you're still putting the burden on the victim to see the world differently. It doesn't work like that. Not when people don't help. You're falling into the common trap of assuming "the worst" or the "****" (guessing there) is equally-applicable in all scenarios. It isn't. Someone instigating is instigating. Someone responding to that? Maybe they don't have to. But it's not the same as purposefully instigating. It might
look the same, but that's why we have forum rules for various things. Someone can cause a scene, and someone can be
in that scene, but only one is (arguably) culpable.
Same goes for giving people the benefit of the doubt. That's you
wanting the benefit of the doubt, which is why you need to provide something contextual. You were asked, and you took the question in bad faith. The poster in bad faith. How's
that for benefit of the doubt?
If it helps, I've been where you are now. It helps to be open. You can be open without disclosing a lot about yourself. But you can't be by just asking questions and giving very generic advice . . . while refusing to actually open up to the questions asked of you.